He sounds VERY immature, even for a 26 year old. He sounds VERY selfish. NOT the marrying type. NOT the BF type in my opinion. Why ARE you with such a rude jerk?

Move on, He's a jerk no matter how you slice it.

If marriage is the end of life, what is monogamous dating? IS he monogamous? How can you be sure with such an attitude about committment?

DTMFA

you'll a little too involved/emotional about the TV show!

It's entertianment, staged.

You're getting as passionate about it as one SHOULD get about one's REAL life, politics, planning for our future!

It's a TV show kid.

Get some perspective.

Amen Kirby. And that is what TC is saying: communication is key in the kitchen.

A classic example (maybe THE classic example) was the episode (Restaurant Wars) in which Richard, Stephanie and Antonia were pitted against Spike, Dale and Lisa. Richard and Stephanie and Antonia know what teamwork means. They have positive attitudes and honestly appear to be having a good time cooking. They worked together to get the job done and create delicious food. On the other team, chaos. No one willing to step up and take charge. Spike even managed to skate out of responsibility for the disasters in the kitchen by staying "out front".

kids or no, the guy sounds like a passive-aggressive immature jerk you shouldn't waste your time with whether or not you ever want to have kids.

If you want kids, no brainer, dump him now.

But say you don't want to have kids, he's still a jerk who doesn't listen, communicate or respect. Why would you want to have a relationship with this jerk anyway?

Yes, if he can't be respectful of your comments, he's not only immature, but scary. It shows a deep deep disdain for other people's feelings. If he can't listen and politely disagree, it shows he doesn't have the human empathy to understand other people have feelings and goals too. He sounds scary to me.

but HOW he deals with them.

He seems unable to deal with his or another person's emotions in a mature respectufl manner.

RED flags!

I don't care if he wants kids or not, but he should be able to explain himself and respect other people's right to their own different goals without being rude about them.

KIDS is just the red herring. The real issue is his inability to communicate or empasize or respect.

typo

meant empathize

YES, fake vomiting when your significant other is trying to discuss life issues IS disrespecful. It's beyond debate, frankly.

Of course they can. They do it every day.

AW was a bad mother because of her own childhood, not because she's an artist.

Margaret Atwood, Barbara Kingsolver.

Of course you can be both.

"So we've agreed to break it off, but we are finding it extremely difficult to fight the chemistry and not engage. We take turns coaching each other through it and then giving in."

Take turns coaching each other through an agreement to break it off? How ridiculous and self-obsessed. Might as well open a drug rehab in a crack house.

Your statement shows an unwillingness to admit facts, follow through on what you say you want, and a need to rationalize and live in denial.

You do not beleive in god, yet are willing to lie and say you do and convert to a set of beliefs you don't believe in order to catch a man who is very charasmatic to you. develop your own life first.

You are young, and get insulted that you have to work your way up in the film industry, JUST LIKE in any other industry. Explore what you want to do and go after it, realizeing you will start off interning, learning, helping before you earn a position of leading, creating, managing.

I don't know what backpacking in Asia will do for your career questions. Nothing will help there but career counseling and hard knocks expereince in the real world where you struggle, suffer and learn.

?yeah... cuz only men can buy and own property???

Dude, don't add people to your deed if you don't want them to have input.

A married person may own property soley. I own my house alone. My husband's name is not on the deed. He has no ownership. And I don't need his permission to sell or refinance it.

Bull. Stop enableing HER and showing your children bad examples.

A la "Intervention," tell her you will not enable her destructive lifestyle any more. She WILL NOT see the children unless she is sober. PERIOD. This throws her closer to her rock bottom.

You owe your mom nothing.

You owe your kids everything.

They should NOT be around the family that accepts that suicidal behavior as normal and acceptable.