I want to WIN!!! If Hillary is the VP candidate (which I honestly don't think will happen) we WILL LOSE!!!! NO!

HC, it is timei to honor your word (I know, not something you're practiced in) and DO WHAT'S BEST FOR THE PARTY. And that is campaign for Obama and his VP candidate and then go back to being a NY senator.

because Obama needs someone to serve as a more moderate balance. Someone who will appeal to the good ole boy types who are pushing it to vote for a woman or a minority. Being asked to vote for both would be enough to push then over the edge and vote repubilcan. We need a good ole white man to give traditional balance. There I said it.

As a extreme liberal, I'm comfortable saying that. I'll take my evolution in small steps and we won't evolve any if the ticket loses. We need the ticket to win and that requires Obama with a moderate balance, not Hillary. Then, after we win, we'll work on getting more women in positions of power. But let us win this one, HC, don't ruin it for us. We can't get the big wins if we can't get this win and get a foothold.

Yes, but the proscribed appropriate medication did NOT include mixing two glasses of wine with those medications!

You made a huge mistake. Admit it. Then promise yourself you'll never do it again, be greateful you didn't die. And be responsible.

you'd have to sue YOURSELF! since you chose to go against medical recommendations and take alcohol with those drugs.

I'm angry you'd think to sue people defending themselves from your deliberate choice to drink with meds!

read the back of the bottle of drugs. It says don't drink alcohol. There's your stoic, logical, matter of fact deal.

YOU you you. Are the problem, not the "ritual" (notice how substance abusers have fancy names for getting loaded), not the drugs. Mixing those drugs with alcohol is LETHAL. you're lucky. BE accountable for your delibarate choice and the effects it had on other people.

or dead like Heath Ledger

this was 2 drinks gulped down quickly before a flight, not spread out over an evening with food. The impact of alcohol is based on how much of it you ingest OVER TIME. So this was far worse than a few drinks with dinner over 3 hours. This was chugging two drinks in a half hour (I take the liberty of guessing).

LW, alot of your dating history is very similar to mine, down to the fiance dumping me and marrying the other woman months later, and a BF going back to preious GF who seemed manipulative.

It's hard to know.

But sometimes I look back and think maybe I was TOO independant. I trid so hard to be independant because it was a quality valued by my family and taught at an early age (good thing) and because I was subconsciously protecting myself from being hurt again (not so good).

I think I sent out a "I don't need you" vibe. So even when I was dating, and thinking I was being good by not being clingy, actually a little more need would have been good.

Being totally independant tells guys you don't need them and the relationship isn't that special. A little (healthy) need makes people feel wanted, and makes them think you need THEM and the relationship is special.

So, open up a little, let yourself need the guy a little. That is one reason they go back to manipulative girlfriends, they're seeking that desire to be wanted. Granted, they'd do better with a more balanced relationship, but I'm just sayin'

all the best

There's nothing the matter with wanting "charisma who makes me laugh" . Don't listen to the folks who say that immature and why you end up with binge drinkers. What hooey.

Once the newness the hair, the youth is gone, that fun outlook will be what holds you together. Laughing together is responsible for holding more marriages together than a good job.

Dont listen to the folks who tell you to settle. You must be with someone you're attracted to. Don't settle for someone "stable" , think of the poor women who married for a provider and lived loveless lives.

Hold out for sparks, fireworks, anything.

If we've learned anything from the gay rights movement, it's that you'll kill your soul if you ignore your desires and try to force yourself to choose people based on society's instructions rather than your own true turn-ons.

said what I was trying to say, but she's much more helpful, clear and articulate than my ramblings.

Actually the opposite can be true: drugs are expensive. Most people don't have money for them, except the rich. and Idleness and boredom facilitated by wealth is often the first step of heavy drinking. To recommend wealth as a criteria for dating is so so so so wrong.

OMG what hooey! Please poster, you're just reinforcing the "women are maniacs during their cycle" myth!

The ONLY reason women and men react differntly to alcohol than men (as a group, not as individuals who cover the sprectrum) is that impact is affected by weight, and as a group, women tend to weigh less than men, so we can absorb less alcohol before the affects are felt.

o-m-g

I could care less. I have enough in my life to focus on, I can't be bothered telling other people what to do with their privates lifes.

HOWEVER, stop telling people you're more highly evolved because you chose polyamory. That is a lie and JUDGEMENTAL. Give us (vanillas) the respect you request.