I'll never understand this new gen-x&Y rationalization that 'snooping' is a worse crime than the infidelity it uncovers. It's just a immature attemtp to misdirect attention from the crime of infidelity, a red herring.

Any person of honor stands by his words and acts. If one's choices can't stand the scrutiny of sunshine, one deserves the ill affects of the lying web he created. He created the mess, so he has to live with the mess. The choice was his to cheat and lie, everything else that happens after that is just an effect of his choices.

Print out the emails, give them to Mom. Let Dad stand up to his acts like a man.

I wouldn't care at all, because I stand by my acts. I'm not afraid to admit every choice I've made in life, so there's nothing to hide, no shame, no lies. 'snooping' as a concept (much less something bad) doesn't exist to me because I have nothing to hide.

I think when the DAD chose to stop minding his own business (which is at home with his wife), he established the standard that there is no expectation of MYOB in that household. He broke the trust.

are you bipolar? cuz your 2 posts seem to contridict each other

The old man thinks: all's fair in love and war. Whatever his book, so give him a taste of his own medicine. He thinks cheating a dishonesty are fine, so you've done nothing wrong in his book. He lives by rules of dishonestly, so he has no position to argue from if he thinks you snooped. That's the rule of the house: dishonest, lying, acting for one's own pleasere rather than respecting the family.

He set the rules here, so let him live with the after effects of his own choices. He needs to learn he can't live by one set of morals, but expect his family to live by another.

Every "other woman" I've ever heard about was trying her derndest to get the man to leave his wife and marry her. The not only doe wife's retirement go down the drain, so does daughter's inheritance. That would NOT be my primary concern, but it is important to note how many 2nd wifes take all their husband's assets and leave the long-suffering wife and kids high and dry. Such are the ethics of cheaters.

I've never been cheated on or cheated either. That's because I have a strong sense of honesty and morals and choose to hang out with people who do as well. That's why I am offended at the Dad's actions.

Those who don't value honesty don't care if Dad cheated. Poster got their logic mixed up.

sorry, my head hit the keyboard

never been "the other woman" either

if they had an open marriage, dad wouldn't be setting up clandestine meetings

It's a poem by Dylan Thomas.

awkward....

Do not go gentle into that good night,

Old age should burn and rave at close of day;

Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Though wise men at their end know dark is right,

Because their words had forked no lightning they

Do not go gentle into that good night.

Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright

Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay,

Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight,

And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way,

Do not go gentle into that good night.

Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight

Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay,

Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

And you, my father, there on the sad height,

Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray.

Do not go gentle into that good night.

Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

HOWEVER, after questions are posed, it IS the media's job to follow up with more questions, noting inconsistencies and dodges, not just type up the answer dutifully without question.

Because I used to be one. Before her lying, duplicitous nature showed itself and i saw what she was willing to do to win.

It scared me.

I am a woman, an honest woman, who values honest PEOPLE who respect women. Demanding I vote for a dishonest woman simply because she's a woman is horrible, as bad as stealing an election.

$3 mil isn't that much for a young couple. If you live for 50 more years, that's only $60,000 a year for both you; $30,000 each. Not much, even in Mexico. How will you get healthcare? What happens if one of you falls and need $50,000 in orthopedic surgery and physical therapy? Not such a rare thing.

Talk to a financial planner. Ask how much income you can produce if you put that money into a trust fund. Do some research about lottery winners and how many of them end up going bankrupt, depressed, alcholic cuz they spend like there's no tomorrow and end up penniless and desparate. Be smart and make sure that doesn't happen to you.

And create a purpose to you life beyond Netflix and Margeritas. I've known a few trust fund babies and many have a lot of problems cuz there's no reason to wake up in the morning. The smart, healthy, happy ones created something for themselves, an art, a job, a mission.

he inherited the $ before you married. He didn't tell you til after you married. Good, so he knows you married him for his love, not his money.

But didn't you wonder while you were dating, how he paid his rent? You decided to marry a guy without ever saying "what do you do?, "where do you work?"

You married a guy who sat around all day watching TV and yo unever wondered how he paid for groceries or what he's motivated to do with his life.?

sounds weird to me.