Letters to the Editor
Cosmic Mojo
Published Letters: 687 Editor's Choice: 13
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"I am an artist."
[Read the article: I hit my sister in the head with my purse when I drink]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]oh god, here we go.
So Cary will tell you that means you have SPECIAL priviledges and are BETTER than most people because you're an ARTIST.
(BTW, the generally accepted standard among ARTISTS is that one may not judge oneself an artist. And artist is someone who is deemed an artist by other people. Otherwise we're all artists of one sort or another... hey wait a minute.. but then self- identified artists wouldn't be SPECIAL and SUPERIOR...)
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I usually love adding my 2 cents worth, but
[Read the article: I'm a bisexual Christian husband and father]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Laurel962 has said it perfectly. I can't add anthing to that matter of fact, face the music post.
well done!
LW, read Laurel's post. Let it sink it. Admit the hards truths and be honest in all your dealings.
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mental illness
[Read the article: My fiancé suddenly joined the Marines]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]manic
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stop being so superior
[Read the article: If I die, I want my friends to raise my children]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]If you can't even talk to your friends who you want to entrust with your children and you think you have the right to "appoint guardianship to someone without notifying them now"! YOU are not as free of those deep emotional or psychological problems you tar your siblings with.
We're all scarred with emotional problems (also called LIVING) and you should be realistic about your siblings. OR not. But get real and don't be so snobby about your "perfect" selve. If you could see inside your friend's living room when the curtains are closed you'd learn they have emotional problems too, we all do. They must not be very good freinds if you can't talk to them about planning for your kids' future, so you don't know them or their emotional problems very well. REalize you just know your sibs' problems cuz you know them well. Other folks don't just not have them, you just don't know them well enough to know their problems. We all have them, it's Called BEING HUMAN.
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If you don't know these people well enough to ask them to raise your children, you don't know them well enough to expect them to raise your children.
[Read the article: If I die, I want my friends to raise my children]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]more importantaly, THEY don't know you well enough to sacrafice their lives and income to raise strangers' kids.
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I do not feel comfortable bringing the topic up with the few friends who I could truly envision raising our children.
[Read the article: If I die, I want my friends to raise my children]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]That is such a telling statement. You don't feel comfortable with these people, yet you entrust them with your kids? You'd leave your kids to people you don't know well enough to talk with? You only know a few freinds you'd trust your kids with? Why be freinds with people you wouldn't trust your kids with? Such, we all think are kids are specail, but face it, most people on earth do a fine job raising kids, YOUR kids aren't THAT specail. You sound snobby to me, think you're too good for all your friends. ARe your kids better than all your freinds' kids?
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your family raised you
[Read the article: If I die, I want my friends to raise my children]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]so they must be able to do a good job?
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I will still remember them in their baskets, etc
[Read the article: If I die, I want my friends to raise my children]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I don't understand this. What baskets? You said they're adults, so they don't go trick-or-treating
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honor your wants
[Read the article: My husband wants a different form of eroticism ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]You don't want it, it doesn't appeal to you, it doesn't turn you on. You have the right to your own needs, just as the BDSM people do. Some will tell you their tastes are more fully evoled, more open, but the truth is we all get to honor our own wants without apologizing for not wanting this or that.
You need to find someone who respects that. You HAVE given it a chance and it's not your cup of tea. You are no longer obligated to consider it. You have and it's not for you. Don't let them embarass you into doing things you aren't comfortable with, not becuase it's unfamiliar or taboo, but because you DID try it and it's not for you.
You are not sexually compatible with your husband, who had checked out of the partnership a long time ago. So I think it's time to admit that you aren't compatible, aren't partners and divorce.
You deserve someone who respects your right to choose your own tastes. who respects that you know what you like and have the right to honor that. Don't let anyone pressure you.
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re: "It sounds as if you have not fully explored your own sexuality."
[Read the article: My husband wants a different form of eroticism ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]That is an incorrect, rude and manipulative statement. On the contrary, it sounds like LW HAS explored her sexuality, influences and impacts in depth, congrats.
BDSMer's will always use that statement to insult, shame and embarass someone into trying something they're really not interested in. It's a very rude statement meant to force you to do something you don't want to do. They often cite how they should have the right to follow their own unique tastes and interests, but hypocritically won't grant that to "vanilla" people.
You HAVE explored your sexuality, and HAVE decided what is right for YOU. Good for you. Don't listen to the judgemental statments here saying just cuz your tastes aren't like theirs', just cuz they aren't exactly what they think You should like, you must be repressed. What lying lies. They sure don't think society should be able to define their sexual lifes, so why do they think they should be able to define other peoples? We all deserve to define that for ourselves.
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He'll never be a true partner to you, because his sexual interests are so important to him that they transcend his feelings for you as a wife, his responsiblities as a father. He will walk all over you to satisfy his desires.
[Read the article: My husband wants a different form of eroticism ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]once again, Laurel has cut through the confustion to the real facts and solution. brava
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yellowdog
[Read the article: Why don't those hillbillies like Obama?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]you're just as elitist as the elitists you hate so strongly. Ie: you are firm in your beliefs and shun all who don't agree with you. So it's OK for you to be firm and elitist in your beliefs, but not for me? what a hypocite.
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to southern b
[Read the article: My husband wants a different form of eroticism ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]The problem may not be that your one soulmate is SO sexually incompatible AND doesn't seem to respect YOUR desires ("you won't let yourself like it"), but that you've brainwashed yourself to think there is ONE man on this entire earth who can make you laugh, feel happy, etc. There is the fallacy. In fact I'm say a 'partner' who doesn't respect your sexual boundaries and tries to pressure you is NOT your soulmate, much less the ONLY one on earth. Your repression isn't in your sexual boudaries, but in your limiting yourself to this one inappropriate person. Why tell yourself you deserve the ONE person on earth who is NOT compatible or respectful.