You asked your sister, you asked your boyfried, and they gave you permission to punt. waa waa

Stop letting other people make critical decisions for your life. Stop neglecting your own life and passing the decisions on to someone else. It's like a little scared girl inside your brain is afraid to make choices and thinks if she passes them on to someone else, she doesn't have to be held accountable.

Girl, take respsonsibility for your own life! Stop expecting other people to do the heavy lifting and take ownership of your own life.

When you do this, you'll find you'll also stop spending lots of money on stupid wasteful things that you don't need to fill the void any more.

TAKE OWERSHIP OF YOUR OWN LIFE NOW.

put on your big girl panties and take responsibility for your own choices.

Send a card to Aunties closest relative, say how sorry you are you couldn't make it and tell her you're sending a check for $470 to Auntie's favorite charity in HER HONOR.

It is time to start being a GROWN UP.

If she can afford a luxury vacation later this year, she can't use the money excuse for not going to the funeral.

If she can't afford the funeral, she can't afford the luxury vacation.

re: Off the top of my head I can think of 4 that I "should have" attended last year. I think it's a nice sentiment and I do always make it to "local" funerals, and to "away" funerals depending on the circumstances, like when a childhood friend's sibling committed suicide.

DO YOU KNOW WHAT QUOTATION MARKS ARE FOR?

lol

Er, yes it IS all our business once you posted your business on a public forum. If you didn't want strangers speculating on your business, you shouldn't have posted on a public forum. YOUR CHOICE, you expereince the reality you chose to create. Stop blaming others. I can tell what your marriage is like from that one sentence.

ANYTHING is negotiable

Cary has described all the motivations and emotions accurately. He has cut the usual 'creative' hyperbole for the cold hard facts LW needs to move his life forward.

Excellent job Cary.

LW, you've got all you need to know in Cary's response. Now just admit it, make decisions and move forward.

That's just it: Cary says that not to suggest it as a reasonabilt course of action, but to show LW how horrible and ridiculous the choices in the situation have been so far.

This letter was written by an elderly sunday school teacher to scare kids from having premarital sex.

And if it wasn't, you should MYOB. She needs to learn the lessons she needs to learn. Following her, judging her random sex and drinking, controlling and knowing her every second will not work. You sound a little jealous of her fun times, sorry.

AMEN Apariceda!

rather troubling...I fear... may one day turn into very serious issues...drunken-dialing...worrisome...notorious... boyfriends and strangers alike...unwittingly...for how kind and absolutely fantastic she is...too averse to confrontation ...to put down her foot...the kicker is...firearm... waned...I fear ...Worse yet...he very well might...at the very least...

sounds like a bad spoof of Jane Austen in the 21st century...

Yeah, cuz a 26 year old would text. And even if she did use a phone, she'd "drunk dial," not "drunken dial"

Gramma's been watching "The Hills" again.

She chose to kill herself (and make her elderly mother find her!) rather than admit to herself what she'd done. THAT is prostitution: shame, lack of self love.

Most prosititues do it because they need cash fast and you can't really be fired for coming to work strung out on drugs.

oh right! I forgot! Saw it in a movie: Madames are high class ladies and pimps are black dudes with big fuzzy hats! Ah, words and how we use them to delude ourselves.

An illegal peddler of flesh who takes advantage of desperation smells just as rotting if you call them a madame or a pimp.

LW, you are delusional, to say the least.

I'm a woman and I called LW delusional. The problem is someone who claims "Jan's" problems are because she's jealous of LW is conceited and projecting low self esteem onto others. LW is prob making all this up to boost up her fantasy that she has something worth being jealous of.

It's all too Marsha marsha Marsha for reality.

Of course it is, that's why "Jan's" acts are all because she's jealous of you, as YOU stated.

Then "Marsha" wouldn't have "Jan" to microcontrol any more or have big drama rants about. Jan's life is Jan's. Now Marsha needs a life of her own so all her drama isn't about someone else's life.

Susannah Breslin is not a journalist, but an author of porn fiction.

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finally someone GOOD.

OMG HH, are you on the other side of my cubicle wall?

that is because there is nothing on network tv worth watching or writing or reading about. hellllllllloooooooooooo...

"don't hate me because I'm BEAUTIFUL"

lol

YEP, breaking the law can get complicated. darn

You must have missed that newscast where Spitzer had to resign his job in shame.

I'm a woman.

ow sorta blows yer whole "men do everything to make prostitute's lives horrible BECAUSE they're women" theory, huh?

this should not justify a letter to Cary.

If you really can't figure it out, go to the library and get an etiquette book.

Get a gift. Include a card on the inside of the box saying: "so sorry we can't make the trip. All the best."

you're done.

end of story.

why build up drama?

stop making decisions based on what the other girls in class will think about you.

you're not in 5th grade any more!