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Cosmic Mojo

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Tuesday, April 8, 2008 06:49 AM

re: "The reason why your homeless leech asked you why you're doing all of this to yourself is because you are."

Ok, grammar pet peeve of the week:

This sentence needs "reason," "why," or "because" but NOT ALL 3!

apologies, and we return you to your regularly scheduled advice column

Tuesday, April 8, 2008 07:45 AM

re: "I scraped together some pennies, rented her a furnished efficiency apartment (on the other side of town)"

DON'T do this, LW!

(1) you should NOT spend one more penny supporting this user,

(2) when loser doesn't pay rent at new place, they'll sue you for the rent since you rented the apartment for him and the lease is in your name!

NO!

Wednesday, April 9, 2008 04:50 AM

he is not letting his life slip by

and perhaps he can show you how you're letting your's slip by.

There's more to savor in life than income, and more more more ways to feel fulfilled than cashing your paycheck every week. Maybe this man can be the one to show you that.

Wednesday, April 9, 2008 04:54 AM

mad cartoonist, this is the only time I disagree with you

I have a masters and my husband has a high school degree and if anything, he is the more curious one of the two. He's the one you'd vote most likely to get a patent for the next intermittent windshild wiper. I watch more TV and movies. He's the one to always have a project going on, to be creating from within, whereas I read what others have written.

Our personailties transcend our formal educations. We are complementary.

Wednesday, April 9, 2008 05:04 AM

the more I think about Mad Cartoonist's letter

You make a critical mistake to equate formal education with dedication or maturity

Wednesday, April 9, 2008 07:06 AM

One: you marry this guy, you have kids, he is happy to stay at home with the kids, Two: you marry, have kids, you want to stay home with the kids, the private sector still penalizes women for taking time off for child-rearing.

or 3: you both work and put the child in daycare, like milllions of healthy well-adjusted kids.

Wednesday, April 9, 2008 07:21 AM

it's also a huge mistake to assume the abilty to communicate increases with education

Ask any one who works with a doctor, they're the worst communicators of all!

Wednesday, April 9, 2008 09:50 AM

Values-based compatibiity is paramount to a good relationship. The myth that it's okay for women to "marry down" is just that: a myth.

wow, what a bigoted uninformed incorrect statement.

I know a lot of marriages with differences in formal education. And their marriage success depends on a lot of factors, but educational level is not one of them.

"Marrying down" is a classist bigoted phrase. Values are about root ethics, not material goals. The high school grad can have the same values for honesty, faith, and fairness as a PhD. Education has no impact on honesty and values.

Thinking You're ABOVE and bettter than others because they have less formal education is stupid and really makes you the LOWEST.

Real class is about respecting people and their individual gifts.

Thursday, April 10, 2008 07:19 AM

don't lie

Just ask STeven Glass how that ultimately worked for him.

I see a lot of technical writing jobs, available on a fulltime or contract basis.

Great advice here, start with free lance, corporate work and work your way up.

Work your J-school contacts and university placement service.

Thursday, April 10, 2008 10:06 AM

budgets are cut, reporters are getting fired on a daily basis.

yep. The Washington Post just offered hundreds of their journalists buyout offers.

Friday, April 11, 2008 12:34 PM

the last two people in the world I want defining the word "bohemian" are Richard Florida

if you read Florida's book, you'd know that he doesn't use the term bohemian, so don't dis his definition.

He explains what he means by creative class quite well and backs it up with data.

this author really summarizes Florida's premises poorly

Friday, April 11, 2008 01:23 PM

...why am I underwhelmed by the writing style

REMINDS ME that writing can be like humor:

If you have to tell people you're funny (a good writer),

then you aren't.

We have to be able to tell from your joke (writing)

Monday, April 14, 2008 06:36 AM

as feminits

we argues for decades that people should be judged by their perfomance, NOT their gender. Ms. Traiser and Hillary are doing their bests to ruin decades of progress in that direction. How can we ask to stop judgeing by gender and then make everything about Hillary be about gender? She can't have it both ways, claiming to be a femimist, but cry sexism everytime someone treats her the way we'd treat a male candidate.

The truth is, she's a bad candidate, being caught in lies (the bullets that didn't exist), being VERY snide on the campaign trail, and insulting everyone by claiming that if I don't support her, I'm a mysoginist.

I'm a feminist. I've been trying for years to get everyone to judge people by their actions, not their gender. I do the same. I judge Hillary by her POOR behavior.

I don't care if my representatives are male or female, just that they act appropirately.

Stop using feminism, Hillary, you're ruining it for all of us.

Monday, April 14, 2008 06:37 AM

as feminits

lol, nothing like a funny typo for a monday morning.

Bet the Rush types will go to town with that!

Tuesday, April 15, 2008 05:05 AM

LW is arrogant

STFU and leave your Dad to vote as he likes, as is our American right. How pompus of LW to think he has the righ to dictate his Dad's votes.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008 01:52 PM

so much more

I think drinking was such a small part of what LW was asking about. His greater issue is that sense of failure and giving up hope re: his career goals. His sense of fear. The drinking was complicating it, but not drinking won't fix his issues a tall.

Monday, April 21, 2008 05:08 AM

invest in a little career counseling

You don't have the personality type to do high pressure sales. Invest in a little career counseling to explore what work would be more compatible with your personality type. Call you local college career center to find out where you can get some advice. You're killing yourself doing work that is contradictory to your soul. Find the right place and work can actually be fulfilling.

Tuesday, April 22, 2008 04:49 AM

get rid of all your assumptions and prejudices

You CAN be a writer without going to a top ivy league school. You can be a writer with a degree from a good college in California, or wherever you want to be. You can not, however, stay sane if you do things contrary to your soul. Go to the school you want, not the one your parents want or the one you hear is the IT school. Be true to yourself so you can thrive.

Tuesday, April 22, 2008 04:52 AM

These are not interesting moral or ethical dilemmas.

ditto

Tuesday, April 22, 2008 04:53 AM

one more thing

No, these are not interesting moral or ethical dilemmas. It is however, a letter that confirms Cary's "we writers are a special and tortured lot" fantasy.

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