good god, learn to say no. 2 hours?!

Say NO THANK YOU nicely at the door and don't let them in.

If one gets in, after 30 seconds say "I have an appointement" and walk him to the door. If he won't follow, pick up the phone and call the police. REally, at a certain point, if you let a stranger stay in your house4 2 hours verbally abusing you, you just deserve what you get. You have control, if you don't exercise it, you have no right to complain.

2 HOURS?????!!! Come on!

I don't even beleive this letter.

The writer sounds like a drama addict who has to make up stories to get attention.

if someone hands you a contract, expects you to sign, and you don't want to, simply say:

"thanks, I'll have to run this by my (father, brother, aunt, lawyer, accountant, mother, sister, brother-in-law), and get it back to you next week."

bu-bye!

I like this idea.

ANYWHERE i've worked if an employee spends their own money on office expenses they get reinbursed...

;)

amen! this is the proper etiquette!

No, United Way money is NOT used for those prizes. Either your employer provides them, or your employer gets local businesses to donate them. Be assured the charitable donations go to the charities you specify on your form and not towards prizes for donators.

It's not just that it's outdated gender roles, but that the girls toys are about CHORES and the boys' toys are about PLAY.

so not just are the activies sharply seperated, but all the boys get to PLAY while all the girls CLEAN up after them.

U-G-H

that response from Hasbro makes me hate them MORE!

When girls chose noncleaning toys they're going agaist what they're supposed to do? are you flicking kidding me? What about teaching all our kids to be creative, curious, kind, and also teach them that we all have to clean up after ourselves!

it should be that parents interests and hobbies, not their cleaning chores.

I learned reading from my mom and drawing from my dad. Housework was just what we did to maintian ourselves while we persue our intersts

focus that attention on your KIDS, lady.

End of discussion.

You'd rather keep the "wrong" sort of people out and feel superior to them criticizing their poor fitness.

How dare they try to improve themselves, albeit, not as perfectly as you. If they do improve themselves, who will you have to feel superior to?

jerk

You seem to be pretty insightful about yourself, how you work, what influences have affected you, why you do the things you do.

You have more self-understanding than a lot of people, much less someone in their early 20s (guessing here). So you are WELL on your way to a happy peaceful grounded life. good for you

yes, and people got in trouble buying McMansions when all they needed, much less could afford was a modest Cape Cod. Those people were living beyond their means, which is shallow and materialistic. I just can't believe the bean counters supported their foolishness.

And I, who goes without a lot that my neighbors have to live within my means, will end up paying for the greedy people's choices.

He's trying to dodge accountability for his choices by putting all the blame on you.

You all need to move forward and for you that's focusing on your new job, new social life and cutting contact with this highly manipulative person.

I doubt his WIFE has to go to networking events, so steer clear of events with more of a social focus, and concentrate on purely work related networking when required for your career. Stop with the freindly keeping in touch crap. Your mistake is over, move on. Don't email or talk, it's only going to have a negative impact on everyone's life and your career. Admit the mistake, nip it in the bud and more on to a more postive healthy life.

don't emial the wife, that's HIS concern.

at people who don't "get" what an emotional affair is or understand the hurt to the spouse. I find it surprising anyone whos been in a relationship would think that any intimate thing short of sex is OK.

Think of all the types of intimacy you share with a partner. Most is not physical.

And as someone else said, if you're giving time and energy to someone else, you're robbing it from your spouse and marriage and kids.

and we all know we ain't talking about being passionate about bridge. We're talking about having a romatic relationshiip with someone other than your spouse.

But there weren't inseparable and that's part of the healing: LW admitting she exagerrated their closeness. They had coffee a few times a week cuz they lived next door. Just a situational convenience which ended when LW had to leave early for work.

I read your whole letter, agreeing, thinking you saw LW as the needy one. It was only at the very end where you identified the LW's neighbor as the needy one comparable to your expereince.

Truth is, could be either one. Maybe LW's neighbor needed to get away from needy LW and just used the job change as a good excuse to shut things down.

has jumped the shark