You disinvited your MOM and DAD from your wedding and wonder why Mom would rather hang out with your friend who remained civil with her through your bridezilla rage?

You sound very spoiled and can't accept it when you aren't the center of attention. You see your mom paying attention to another baby and you cry and stamp your feet. If something doesn't go exactly your way, you cry, stomp your feet and have a wedding "offshore" and disinvite the meanies who won't do exactly what you want. Geeze, no wonder your friend and your Mom would rather hang out with each other than you.

"I can't make the two stop being friends"

PLEASE look at your statement, LW. You actually think you have the right to MAKE someone not be friends? You think you have the right to dictate other people's emotions, actions, freinds? This would be so funny if it wasn't true.

Lady, you can rationalize it all you want, but at the end of the day, You DID disinvite your own parents from your wedding.

that says it all.

who actually had the heart to invite them to her wedding, unlike their actual daughter. you reap what you sow. By disinviting them from your wedding you sent a signal loud and clear what you think of you mom. Can you blame her for backing off? You insulted her and she's hurta nd finding kindness elsewhere.

in fact, the very misimpression that there are 2 sides (Lw's and Best Friend's) is the very immature interpretation that's created all these bad feelings.

by failing to "take LW"S side", we are not "taking Best Freidns' side," but stepping back and looking at the big picture. Don't make it personal. Understand that an entire world of an infinate number of people, thoughts, acts are going on and you can't control them, judge them, understand them, or take them personally, or force people to take sides.

there is no side, the world is round!

I wonder why you want such a sadistic person in your daughter's life? I think a parent's job is to protect their child from people like that, not force them to spend time with them and risk their mental health for the sake of what, tradition?

Forge a new life based on love and kindness. You owe your daughter every effort to make HER life better than your own was, free from psychological abuse. Break the cycle. There are other ways for her to learn about her cultural heritage rather than forcing her to relive your abusive legacy.

Bandersnatch you are a genius

NO! This is none of your business. That is THEIR life, not your's. Helping your ex move his too-fast GF (with serious questions as to if the relationship started before y'all broke up) is prying where you don't belong. HE moved on, so now you have to. Stay out. Your inappropriate pushing into their private life is an indication of your inability to let go, your hopes he'll dump her and take you back. No.

Sigh, I know how much it hurts. But you just have to close that door and go open some new ones. If you don't, you'll never have a life, seriously.

we all do that after a break up, but that's private, in our head, or in the privacy of our home.

LW is in this guy's life, coordinating he new GF's move. (have to wonder what she thinks of that). There's a huge line we mostly don't cross, we have all the longings, but keep them private, in our head, not real. LW crossed that line and is really in his life, really won't go away even though he has a new GF.

wow, that really puts it in perspective suscinctly

cast my vote for succinct cary

me too, like it.

Can replace my "that which doesn't kill us, criples us."

is that a typo or some new lingo I'm not up on. Usually I can ell what a type is *trying* to say, but for the live of me, I can't figure out what this is supposed to mean.

are there copy editors there?

a typo in my post about typos.

Usually I can *tell* what a typo is supposed to say.

;)

I disagree that it's a small thing to be passed off with a laugh.

It was VERY unprofessional and immature. The Interior Designer definitely has WAY more needy designers she can give the work to AND be confidant they'll behave with maturity and professional dignity. She should cut off ties with you. She needs to be confindant her clients are treated well and when she refers them to you, her reputation is at stake.

LW, the whole snafu is unprofessional enough, but being so needy that you have to *TELL* someone right away instead of waiting til you get home IS immature, very 5th grade. You should be focusing on WORK during the work day and then when you get home, decompress with your husband, chatting about the day. FAcetime is real, texting is NOT.

Consdier it a lesson well learned, if expensive.

which is why professionals know not to saying ANYTHING like that at work. Don't blame the tattletail, don't blame the messenger, don't blame the "rat."

blame yourself for being stupid and not keeping your mouth shut at work. Accept responsibility for your own choices and don't blame someone else for honestly repeating what you said.

and the British for some reason

Hasn't bruwshed in *8* years?

How can anyone stand to be within 10 feet of him? His breath must knock out grown men!!! How horrible disgusting. There is more wrong than a dentist's phobia, only a seriously self-hating person would go so long without basic hygine OR date someone like that. It's as self-destructive as cutting!!! BOTH of you get serious help NOW!!