I disagree that LW's life has gone perfectly. IF she really thought it has, she'd be at peace with herself and the world and be able to treat people fairly.

The fact that LW has such strong negative judgemental thoughts about people shows inner anger. That inner anger comes out as negative thoughts, critical throughts about everyoneo else. Such strong critical negative thoughts about so many people is a sign of deep deep anger.

Find out why you're so angry at the world LW. Is it because those imperfect lives were at least intersting, daring, exciting? And you perfect life was boring? ARe you jealous because those people dared to live life and you never had that chance?

Most of the time when we're highly critical of people's choices, it's cuz we're secretly jealous of their freedom to do what they want.

How many people hate the town slut cuz they were jealous of her sexual freedom?

It's hard to beleive LW's life has gone SO perfectly. It seems like she's deluding herself if she really thinks so, repressing any type of experience or emotion in order to maintian that facade of perfection.

Ask your husband, cuz it doesn't sound like his thinks you're perfect... maybe there IS imperfection in your life, you just refuse to acknowledge it. Sounds like you're causing stress to your husband (who probably is on the end of that judgement a lot).

"Looking back I can see times when I was pretty smug and judgmental. Those times I was not genuinely happy, but struggling to ward off my own fears of losing badly, and clinging to rules before I really understood that the game itself"

This is about logistics or a laundry service, this is about a husband backing out of his partnership agreement. He agreed to be in a partnership and share responsibility for maintaining the family and household. Then when he lost his job and got used to lazing aroudn while his wife did everything he realized he could live off her. He's working now (sounds like sporadically), but is trying to shirk his duties and use his wife.

Do NOT get a laundry service. Get a marriage therapist to help you see if your husband wants to be part of a PARTNERSHIP any more or not. If not, cut him free and see how long he lasts working part time, playing golf and paying someone to do his laundry!

meant to type This is NOT about logistics or a laundry service

is that the sEnator thinks HE'S above the law. He's happy to legislate laws against gay rights, but doesn't think he should have to obey them. Typical sense of entitlement to ignore the laws he expects the little people to obey.

hello! how on earth can you claim you trust your husband after making a comment like that!

Either you trust him or you don't. Why do you jump to the conclusion that a single woman at a party to help her best freind celebrate a rite of passage is going to jump your husband just cuz she's heterosexual. If your husband can't reisit that, he can't resist all the daily opportunities he faces at work, the gym, whereever on a continual basis.

You have got some major issues about trust, assuming any man around any woman will naturally jump her (forgetting she has any choice in the matter. Lord with that assumption, how do you let him out of the house?

And, guess what? IT's not your call. The groom-to-be invites who he wants and doesn't have to ask you. And your husband can go or not, but it's not up to you. You're not invited and if you were, you coulnd't dictate the guest list anyway.

Get. Therapy. Now.

jealously, jealousy, jealousy

YOU"RE the sexist LW! You're OK if the women present are the OBjects, you just don't like it when they're equals/friends to the guys!

people, read the last 2 sentennces in LW's letter. This isn't about a bachelor party. It's some serious jealously and hatred in that LW's head. She hates confidant women. She's jealous of confidant women. And yes, I have to agree, with your suspicious hating ways, you'll probably push your husband to cheat.

read the last 2 paragraphs where she makes fun of women who are freinds with men, even says she hates the TV show "MY boys" which is about a women with lots of PLATONIC males friends. I quote: "UGH!"

she clearly said she'd be OK if the woman there was the stripper, she just can't stand that a woman is there as A FRIEND.

^ what a horrible judgemental hating incorrect statement^

also shows a lot of jealously

Except the whole reason I switched from Blockbuster to NEtflix is that Netflix has what i want. Blockbuster had a bunch of empty dummy boxes lining the wall and one copy of "Platoon" availalbe for rental. No way I'm going back to that. Netflix has whatever movie I want, be it the current hit, or an obscure flick I'd never get from blockbuster even if is staked out the returns box, they won't buy it.

again, that is HIS fault! not yours, and definitly not some single woman's who probably didn't know he was married.

LIsten to yourself. You're blaming single women for you husbnad's choice to cheat. You married him.