Letters to the Editor
Cosmic Mojo
Published Letters: 687 Editor's Choice: 13
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it's not LW specifically
[Read the article: Dear Sir, I write today to say that I cannot write]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]It's just that we have had our lifetime fill of the "wah wah, I'm a special self-centered creative artist with an existential crisis" letters.
Maybe that could be a seperate column and those who are interested can read that column. And the rest of us "unspecial" people can read the colum about the human condition.
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But I can say for certain, now, and with no guilt or uneasy feelings, that writing is elitist. To be a writer is enter into a league that most human beings will never, ever have the opportunity to enter.
[Read the article: Dear Sir, I write today to say that I cannot write]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]sorry, no you just THINK you're a LOT more special than you are. How arrogant
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the think about being special
[Read the article: Dear Sir, I write today to say that I cannot write]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]The thing about being special is: it's NOT a self-appointed quality. Someone else can identify you as standout, but you can not label yourself special! lol!
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S.H.A.M.
[Read the article: I left an abuser, but now I'm with a married man]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]what on earth (but your own incorrect projections) makes you think all the "morality" posts weren't liberal?
You are WAY off base.
I'm as pinko liberal as they come and was a predominant poster FOR morality, or ethics, if some prefer. That is a huge misconception of your's, that liberals are not moral. WE may not brag about it the way the self-titled "moral majority" do, but we --just like you--prefer our spouses to be faithful.
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single men
[Read the article: Working women's wife envy]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]at the office get a lot of free rides, they're never expected to bring real food to potlucks, whereas equal professional women are. Sure, work all day, go home collapse. Wake up at 4 am to make quiche for the office lunch.
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"But this just seems like such a purposeful cut to my heart, I can't stand it."
[Read the article: My close friend has clammed up]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This. Is. Not. About. You.
You will not be a good freind until you get that.
Your friend's dating, secrets, fears, choices, likes, dislikes, attractions are NOT about YOU. Her romantic choices are made for herself and affected by who she's dating. You, and attempts to "purposefully cut your heart" do not make it to the consideration of her romantic life. You are self-centereed.
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all or nothing? of course not
[Read the article: My close friend has clammed up]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]there's nothing the matter with mentioning some part of our life, but not telling every deepest detail!
I tell freinds things from my life, but no one gets every deep intimate detail about health, job, relationships. To tell or expect EVERYTHING shows a poor understanding of normal boundaries and the value of privacy. There is no expectation of the right to know everything about everyone (why would you want to?), nor is it manipulative to tell some news, but not everything. It's wise.
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mayb she grew up
[Read the article: My close friend has clammed up]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]most people grow into their sense of keeping their own counsel. When we were young, we needed to tell everyone everything about our lives, it validated us. As we grew, we needed that less and come to see the mature dignity in keeping our own counsel, the beauty of personal space, the intimacy of secrets shared with one special person, not blabbed to every girl in the lunchroom.
she's matured and you're still in the high school mode.
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I'll tell you why I stopped telling one freind details
[Read the article: My close friend has clammed up]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I used to tell her every sordid detail. Then one day, as she was telling me really private stuff about another woman, I realized, She does that to ME too! She tells other people my private stuff I told her in confidance!
I shut off the supply to the gossip monger.
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of course it's high school
[Read the article: My close friend has clammed up]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]of course it's high school to expect your freind to tell you every intimate deatil about her romance with a lover, it's really not much of a romance if most of it isn't kept between the 2 lovers.
much less to consider it a deliberate attempt to hurt you if she decides to keep it between her and her BF.
There comes a time in your maturation when your relationships are between you and your lover, not you and your lover and your 5 closest gal pals, and whoever they choose to tell.
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self-centered week at SYA
[Read the article: There's a cougher in the office and it's driving me mad!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]No, the dude isn't hacking to irritate you. He's got allergies, smoker's hack, reactive lung disease, emerging emphysema, or something like that.
HIS sickness is NOT all about YOU.
Get some earphones.
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But, if you work in an office, you are not a writer.
[Read the article: There's a cougher in the office and it's driving me mad!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]unless you are a writer for a magazine, for just ONE example.
more examples of the misplaced arrogance of self-appinted writers (as opposed to those who are actually paid by someone to write).
(btw, posting snarky responses on blogs does not make you a writer, lol)
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self-destructive
[Read the article: I left an abuser, but now I'm with a married man]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Sure, we don't call the LW evil. She's been through evil and makes bad decisions. But she needs to acknowledge that the choices were her own and that they are self-destructive. Play with fire, get burned. Date married men, get hurt. See the pattern and CHANGE.
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if you work in a cubicle farm
[Read the article: There's a cougher in the office and it's driving me mad!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]if you work in a cubicle farm, you have to learn to live with it or find a new job. Getting unrealistic about everyone's obligation to do what you want is not a choice.
Boy, could I obsess about most people on my floor. It isn't their fault, it's the fault of cheap coporations that won't build real offices, but choose these horrible cubicles. You can hear everything, the guy 3 cubes over yelling at his wife on the phone, the inspections department laughing very loudly at everything, the secretary's loud flip flops, the guy who likes country and western, etc. etc. etc. Sometimes, in the afternoon it gets so noise, I just put on my headphones and focus on my work.
But I try to act like a grown up. See the situation for what it is: a reality of modern day cubicledom. I find a solution and deal.
I don't blame other people.
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Do we really want corporate boards determining which employees are good mothers or fathers?
[Read the article: Delinquent dads]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]NO, but I DO want a corporate culture that does not expect people to put in 100 hours a week, or even 50. You should be able to work AND have a family, not have to work long hours just to keep your paycheck.