Letters to the Editor
Cosmic Mojo
Published Letters: 687 Editor's Choice: 13
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EW
[Read the article: The artful seducer]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]He's not attractive or masculine at all; I can't imagine being attracted to him, much less sleeping with him. I think most women like something more like the Marlboro man: handsome, but manly.
Rule: Never date a man who wears more eye makeup than you do! lol what a freak
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ER
[Read the article: How can I comfort my boyfriend about losing his hair?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]DID ANYONE mention Monoxidil? Very high success rate; not very expensive.
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yes
[Read the article: "Show me your hose"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]the firefighters should win the case! I am a liberal extremist, and I think one should NEVER be forced to join any parade, political rally, or political party. It is dangerous when an EMPLOYER can force compulsory attendance at political events. That is SCARY. Hello, read some history! Brownshirts! It's the same, whether the compulsory attendance is liberal or conservative. It's wrong and it's scary.
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catherine price
[Read the article: "Show me your hose"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I can't believe you aren't sure where you stand on this! You mean you WOULD support compulsory political attendance by employers over employees?
What if you boss said he'd fire you unless to went to a Pro-Life rally? You'd be pretty clear on thinking that was wrong. This is the same exact thing. IT's wrong and unconstitutional.
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hmmm
[Read the article: Robert Novak's very sad story]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I can't consider the loss of a 'friendship' with Karl Rove as a loss. You're way better off without that wicked person. He'd probably shoot you in the face.
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stores can help
[Read the article: Plastic bags are killing us]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]when I go grocery shopping, the bagger only puts 2 or 3 things in each plastic bag! That wastes a lot of bags. I try to help out bagging before I have to pay, and I put way more items in each bag than they do. It would save bags to put more items in each bag, plus make it easier for me to carry my purchases. 5 bags are easier to carry than 10.
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You DO know what to do, you just wanted permission to ignore it and take the easy (but ultimately fatal) route. No dice, do the RIGHT thing and save yourself
[Read the article: I left an abuser, but now I'm with a married man]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]"I think that I should stop seeing this man before I get too deeply involved and just concentrate on myself and my emotional health. I don't know what to do because this man tells me that I am special and that he cares about me, but I feel that I will be hurt again."
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this is the most beautiful helpful practical true and loving advice Cary has ever written
[Read the article: I left an abuser, but now I'm with a married man]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]You are special. I care about you. I will also say this: Many people reading this letter care about you. Many people reading this letter have been in situations like yours, and they know what you are talking about. Unlike this married man, however, we do not require anything of you. We just care about you.
You don't have to be in a relationship with a man right now. You may think you have to be. But you don't. Not right now.
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Six months or so with a married man can be just what the doctor ordered.
[Read the article: I left an abuser, but now I'm with a married man]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]NOT for that man's WIFE!
None of our choices are made in a vacuum.
Besides making the most healthy choices for ourselves (which usually means people who are honest and fully available, no matter how "warm" that married man is), we must also respect the impact of our choices and their affects on other people, including the spouses of those "warm" married affairs.
No, dating a married man is NOT what the doctor ordered.
It may seem delish to have cheesecake every night for dinner, but when you're fat with clogged arteries, you'll see you were wrong to make a choice based on pleasure only without considering long-term health; and so it is with a "warm" married man--may seem flattering, but fatal in the end.
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excellent comments about choices, allie
[Read the article: I left an abuser, but now I'm with a married man]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]"You don't get to hurt other people just because you've been hurt yourself. Cut it out. It's not all about you; this man's wife is a person. His children are people. You are hurting them. Stop it. Find solace elsewhere."
There seem to be 2 camps: the "she's a victim of abuse" camp, and the "she's immoral for dating a married man" camp. And there's arguements over which is true.
Well, BOTH are true. Why does only one have to be true? Both are true, and connected (she is with abusers because she makes bad choices). She makes bad choices because the abusive relationships have conditioned her to think she doesn't deserve better.
We all have control over our choices and our lives get much better when we decide to step up to the plate and take ownership of our choices and their repercussions.
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personal dignity
[Read the article: I left an abuser, but now I'm with a married man]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]beautiful and meaningful phrase.
Think about what that really means: having a sense of personal dignity. What can we do to cultivate it?
I'm going to think about that for my own enlightenment today: cultivating my personal dignity more.
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AGAIN,
[Read the article: I left an abuser, but now I'm with a married man]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]what is presented here as 2 extremes are BOTH true:
YES, you need some tenderness in your life, but
NO, you may NOT get it from a married man.
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It's nice to pretend that LW can just say, "Oops, sorry, wrong number" and walk away,
[Read the article: I left an abuser, but now I'm with a married man]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]well of course she can.
We all can.
It's callaed FREE WILL.
that waa waa, I'm a victim of my own desires is insulting to real humans who take responsibility for thier choices.
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And count yourselves lucky that the hardest moral decision you've ever had to make is whether or not to watch The Sopranos.
[Read the article: I left an abuser, but now I'm with a married man]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]We all have had to make difficult decisions. We just didn't make a big deal about it, cry that we had PASSION, blame someone else, or use soap opera ethics to decide. You're not that special, we've all had tough lives, tough decisions, bad times. It's how you handle them that seperates the adults from the children. Own up to resonsibiilty for your own decisions, and don't blame someone else (or something else).
the devil made me do It!
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if you're going to espouse "free will" and be prepared to stand by your words completely, then surely it's in the knowledge that a person's free will is the freedom to do whatever they choose, without judgment
[Read the article: I left an abuser, but now I'm with a married man]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]no where in the definition of free will does it say others may not pass judgement.
Free will is used in this context to remind people they can't blame someone else for their own choices and actions. Period. They chose to do it and all afteraffects are products of that choice. Saying you continued in an affair after you learned a man was married because you "couldn't break up" is false. You had the ability, but CHOSE not to. Period.
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free love
[Read the article: I left an abuser, but now I'm with a married man]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]free love, etc. is FINE as long as EVERYONE involved knows about it.
Generally, someone forgets to tell their spouse.
So, it isn't a problem of ancient pilgram ethics being forced on innocent victims today. It's about people who have swore to be faithful breaking that promise and NOT telling the person they promised.