Letters to the Editor
Cosmic Mojo
Published Letters: 687 Editor's Choice: 13
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I think those of you are unfair to judge how someone else choses to spend their holiday. (And I mean you Cosmic Mojo.)
[Read the article: Should I invite my difficult friends to the in-laws' lake house?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]oh gee, I in no way "judged" people who like to sit around and talk. I like that too. I merely said: (1) it's good to be quiet once in a while as a balance to lots of talking, and (2) going to a natural vacation site is much better if you take time to appreciate the nature itself. Those are not judgemental or inflammatory statements, just remeinders that there's a whole world out there and we all should be open to all of it. Your view of any aspect different from your own as "judgemental" pretty much proves my point.
It is in NO way judgemental to say: slow down and smell the roses. Be quite some and listen to the cicadas. It's all quite beautiful.
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it's not your story
[Read the article: Sexual harassment in art school]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]The victim is the only one who can complain.
Also, since the emails have been forwarded so much, odds are, everyone knows already including the dean and the chair. You say he has a long-established reputation for this, so, again, everyone already knows, including the chair and the dean.
All you can do is express your displeasure when the staff is discussing staff roles, reassignments, etc. You can say "I'm concerned about the improper fraterization and our school's liability." But until that student complains, you can't make her complaint for her.
The chair knows what her husband is doing. Lord knows why she continues to put up with it, but it's not your call, it's her choice.
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express to me the proper way this guy should have approached the girl.
[Read the article: Sexual harassment in art school]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]none, he's married. duh
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oh no
[Read the article: I feel terrible about leaving but I have to go]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]my dear, the myriad of other issues notwithstanding,
If you were being taken care of, your life was not your own.
Leave and next time, don't follow the next guy who offers to take care of you. Do the hard work, struggle, get near rock bottom, and emerge taking care of yourself with your life and destiny truely your own.
Then you'll be free enough to fall in love rather than in need.
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huh?
[Read the article: I feel terrible about leaving but I have to go]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]HIS parents gave YOU a job, bought you a house, bought you a car and he's the infant? Step back and look at who was totally dependant on his parents and used their money til it got boring.
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my looks aren't going to last forever, so I'm afraid if I don't get out now then I never will
[Read the article: I feel terrible about leaving but I have to go]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]as long as you think that way, you will just drift from one sugar daddy (and sugar grandaddy) to another. Stop.
try something new: rely on yourself. On your brain and abilities. Stop with the looks and the sugar daddies and the sugar grandaddies. Suffer. Support yourself.
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wha?
[Read the article: My 28-year-old girlfriend wants to do drugs -- just like I used to!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]what on earth are you confused about? Someone wants you to do drugs that already KNOW you don't like, so DON"T DO THEM> Period end of discussion. Old man afraid the young hottie will leave him if he doesn't give her what she wants? Grow a pair and let her make her choices.
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avoiding that committment is just a distraction for your real issues
[Read the article: I enlisted in the Army -- but now I've changed my mind!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Why did you enlist in the army? And more important, after a life of screwed up choices, how is it you finally 'get it' after just a few months post enlistment? Is it because you finally feel free of responsibility since you've made this big committment? You DON"T get it, and must do a lot of work to get there, enlistment snafu notwithstanding.
What to do about your committment is NOT your biggest problem and I"m frustrated with these letters that seem to think once you figure out how to get out of that all your problems are over.
I think you should follow through on your word for once in your life. See what responsibility is like.
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i tell my family and close friends i love them every time we say goodbye.
[Read the article: It has been 10 months and he still won't say "I love you"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I hate it when platonic freinds pull that manipulative drama queen stuff. Save the "I love you"s for special occasions. If you over use it, it loses it's meaning.
Sorry, but a platonic pal who signs off with "I love you" is too needy for me. Everything doesn't have to be said all the time for mature people to realize you appreciate their freindship. It IS insecure to have to say it (and expect it to be siad in return) all the time when we all know what's going on.
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self centered much?
[Read the article: I'm ashamed to be ashamed of my father]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]You don't talk about caring for your Dad or wishing his quality of life was better, you just whine about how he embarasses you and that administering his estate after his death will be a bother to you.
How selfish. No wonder the old man feels alone and helpless with family like you. Admittedly maybe you're cold because of your upbringing, but you have the ability to pull yourself up, whereas your father does not.
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what does your significant other think?
[Read the article: I don't know how to take a vacation!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Doesn't your husband/wife/BF/GF have a vote in where you go? What does s/he want?
I do think you need more of a retreat than a travel jaunt. RECHARGE those batteries.
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A vacation sitting on the beach or engaging in other forms of doing nothing is useless in the long run.
[Read the article: I don't know how to take a vacation!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]That's a real value judegemtn based on your own criteria.
Fact is a lot of people like to recharge rather than conquer for vacation.
Just because we aren't doing something you can perceive or you value as important doesn' mean we aren't doing something valuable. Reading is not a waste of time. It may not end up with anything physically tangible, but it enriches the soul.
Doing 'nothing' is very good for the soul. It quiets the addition for outside stimulation and lets the inner soul speak.
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nice break
[Read the article: I don't know how to take a vacation!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I like being on vacation and being at home. Home is such a different place when you aren't rushing out the door to get to work on time, rushing in to make dinner, prep for tomorrow and go to bed, or spending the weekend doing all the chores to keep your week running smoothly.
Being at home with no obligations for a week is heaven. Putter about in the garden, watch a movie, read a book, test the hammock. Fall back in love with your home, your sancturary.