Letters to the Editor
AnnieW
Published Letters: 1177 Editor's Choice: 31
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Nice guys
[Read the article: The artful seducer]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]The previous poster who pointed out that nice guys aren't always rejected for being nice, they might not be sending out the right (or any) signals.
I dated a guy that was good looking, funny, well off, etc. We "dated" for about 8 weeks and he was always fun to hang with. He NEVER made a move. I wasn't subtle in my interest (never had that problem with other men) but he never even tried to take it to any level physically, not even a kiss. I was always shocked when he'd call and ask me out again because I thought he wasn't that into me.
It's funny to think back that he probably felt rejected when I stopped going out with him. He did tons of nice things for me and at the time I felt like I was using him (he always paid for our dates, helped me move, etc) if we weren't a couple. He made me feel like we were not a couple, just friends.
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Honesty
[Read the article: My close friend has clammed up]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]A true good friend doesn't hold back whole parts of their life from you, even if they are embarassed. They eventually come clean, but give them a chance.
Cary is right, tell them you are not interested in judging or titallation, but interested in your friend. Be patient though, for some reason your friend has issues with their last choice, and since it ended, probably recognizes the mistake and maybe embarassed or even ashamed.
Don't write them off just yet.
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Girl Scout experience
[Read the article: Fishing for boys, pedicures for girls]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]My experiences in the Girl Scouts were not "day spa" type activities. When we camped, it was in the desert and tough, a rattlesnake was shot in one tent and beheaded with a shovel. It was a big deal to this 10 year old. I also learned how to escape (potentially) from a fall into an abandoned mineshaft.
It also taught me to be a part of a team, I still remember winning an "award and prize" for being the hardest worker in camp... a good life lesson. Even though it was small, it really mattered to me and was very rewarding.
I also went to multiple camps for boys and girls and overall had good experiences. It saddens me to think that girls today have fewer options than this grandmother did.
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Let's see what you say later, anon....
[Read the article: No August vacation for the stock market]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]okay...
"I am hoping against hope that the folks here excoriating everyone for the dastardly crime of consumerism are completely self sufficient and off the grid and I guess their computers run off sunshine and unicorn piss."
You know, it's going to be the conservatives that will be the loudest and first to say the people that lose their houses, life savings, etc. are stupid for not having planned for the eventuality of a downturn in the housing market. That they should have saved, mention personal responsibility, etc. I remember who blamed all the employees at Enron for losing their pensions....
I see most of these people as naive and having been sold a bill of goods. Yeah, there are some that were stupid and greedy, but others refinanced to get "better" terms and are now stuck with awful loans and soon to be upside down. Even if you're lucky enough to not be upside down, the frigging banks don't want to refinance you now, even if your credit is good.
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Sensitive Boy movies
[Read the article: "Superbad"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Do you think young guys are going to take their date (let alone go with their friends) to a movie that "sensitively" explores male insecurity? It would instantly be a "chick flick" at that point, and one that would make most young men uncomfortable. The humor allows both sexes to look at guys and "get" them, it's not a bad thing.
The closest thing I remember to a popular movie (and it was quite a while ago) that explored relationships between teenage boys was "Stand By Me", a Stephen King story. It still had to include a dead body and a mass vomit scene to be able to get the movie to be the kind of thing that had cross appeal.
Humor is not a bad way to look at serious subjects.
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LW has an issue
[Read the article: There's a cougher in the office and it's driving me mad!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]The LW is obsessing. I know that when I'm stressed and busy, my boss's eating habits are all of a sudden VERY annoying. He's a loud chewer, can even smack his lips. It only seems to drive me crazy when I'm upset already, the rest of the time it just amuses me or I don't even notice. The same thing is true for another coworker with allergies, their sniffing is all of a sudden like fingernails on a chalkboard when I'm the one under pressure.
From how distressed the LW sounds, I have no doubt, even if the cougher were to leave, there would be some other "distraction" in the office that would drive them crazy.
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@ Silenced
[Read the article: In meth we trust]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Alcohol addiction is bad, I get it, practically everyone gets it. Okay?
That doesn't mean meth is good, or that saying meth is bad (or very bad) makes one a hypocrite.
Tell me anywhere in the article (or in the letters) that you've seen that suggests that anyone wants to lock up addicts, let alone throw away the keys. I hope we NEVER get to the point where there is a majority of our population that are meth users and that they can "write" laws about the stuff. I DO hope that eventually are drug laws become much more humane for practical reasons.
It is strange to me this trying to change the subject of what we are talking about and make it about someone else's behavoir. It's very similar to what the RW does whenever they have and issue and "But, but Clinton...." is thrown in.