Letters to the Editor
MWise
Published Letters: 249 Editor's Choice: 19
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Don't want your pity
[Read the article: Pro-life doesn't mean unsexy]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Lesley-Anne, that's great that you are pro-life. You should never have an abortion then. But it is none of your business about what I do or the woman down the road does. Not all of us that have had abortions were stupid sluts that couldn't figure out how birth control works. And NO it was not a horrible experience. Getting pregnant while on the pill was horrible. If I had been FORCED to carry to term and give birth to a child that I did not want THAT would have been horrible. Fetuses at some point do look like babies. But they are NOT. They can only survive in the womb of their mother. Babies can be handed off to any person to care for and feed. Babies do not have the potential to cause death or disability. Fetuses do. In our country we do not compel citizens to donate blood or organs. Nor do we compel people to donate eggs or sperm. In that vein we cannot comple women to carry a pregnancy and give birth. If you to end my support of abortion, work on fetus transplants so that no women is forced to carry a pregnancy. Until then, you have no right to dictate to me how my body can be used.
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after reading these letters i need to puke
[Read the article: Britain in "moral collapse" over rape?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Some writer says that women are messing society so much where men think it's okay to rape? Or that rape is a "passive" aggressive revenge tactic that some men are pushed into (by women?). And some other person writes that women ARE asking to be raped if they were certain kinds of clothing(so who judges what is rape-provoking clothing?). Or go to the park. Or flirt. So instead we should keep women "barefoot and pregnant". RIGHT. Because when women were kept that way rape NEVER happened. Nor does it happen in cultures that still keep women that way, where feminism is non-existant.
I totally don't believe the stats that Clark-Flory quoted, but seeing writing like these two letters makes me think different.
Let me tell you a story about a girl that got raped in my town. She was in a local park hanging out with her boyfriend. They weren't out late, it was evening, they weren't in a bad part of town. She wasn't wearing "trashy" clothes. But a group of boys decided to have some fun. They took turns raping her while they held a gun to her boyfriend's head. They did this for no other reason than being bored. So according to some of the writers here, she deserved to have "reality to punch back" proving that she isn't "invulnerable". Well, Mr. Anonymous, you are a right a--hole. That girl and her boyfriend deserved NOTHING that happened to them. The problem wasn't with their behaviour, it was with the rapists that decided to take something that wasn't theirs to take. They broke the law, THEY did something horrible and unforgivable. The reality is that NO ONE forced them to rape. And they should be held fully responsible to their actions. If you want to call someone a "fucking retard", look in the damn mirror.
Men walk down the road worried about their wallets, so do women. We also get to worry about being raped. And don't you DARE compare getting your wallet stolen to being raped. To have another person to force you to do an act that is supposed to be filled with love and joy. To turn the most intimate acts into a mockery. To live through that and then have to worry about STDs and pregnancy. And then work through that fear and anger so you can be intimate with the one you love. If you think that is like having your wallet stolen, you have lost all humanity.
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way to conflate the argument
[Read the article: Britain in "moral collapse" over rape?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Just because having your children taken from you is bad still doesn't mean that a woman (or a man) DESERVES to BE RAPED. Which is exactly what Mr. A and BS65 are saying. Strangely enough, I argee that women who commit "paternity fraud" should be punished and deserve no child support. I also don't believe in single custody, or the presumption that mothers should get sole custody in divorce cases. I also believe that women should participate in our economy and get careers (not jobs) so that they can support themselves and their child(ren) if need be. Active involvment of father's in their children's lives is just as important as that of the "sainted" role of motherhood. Having grown up in the era of men walking out on their wives and kids of many years to pursue younger women and hot cars, I actually think that parents that get divorced should be *required* to *equally* care for their kids. I had way too many friends get incredibly hurt by having their dads "dump" them. And sadly this selfishness has grown and it's not uncommon to see a mom walk out on her kids to "find herself". Or to have a single mom deny visitation rights to a father because of issues in their relationship. I don't think that should be allowed to happen. Kids have a need and right to both their parents, and only in cases of abuse should removal of parental rights happen.
If I was dictator, I'd make it damned difficult to get married, no more drunken ceremonies in Vegas. No 20 year olds getting married to their first "serious" partner. And it would be even more difficult to have kids. Birth control in the drinking water!
But still none of that really matters since the topic on hand is the fact that some people in this forum believe that getting raped is just having your wallet stolen. Or that some women have it coming because they flirt or act invulnerable. You are wrong on that and you know it. But good try on the misdirection.