Letters to the Editor
MWise
Published Letters: 253 Editor's Choice: 19
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Ben
[Read the article: The Empathy Belly]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I love my husband with all my heart and hope to never be without him. Feel free to question his manhood, it only makes you sound more childish. Every word that you type here makes me happy that I found one of the good ones. So thank you. And my husband thanks you.
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BS
[Read the article: The Empathy Belly]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Is that that you are so cut off from humanity that you act (or write) in such a horrible manner? Is it completely beyond your comprehension that people can love and be loved in return? There are millions of loving couples around the world where both partners are happy and content with each other. Not all relationships are built on fear, contempt and despair. I hold no power over my husband, he could walk out the door tomorrow, as could I. He is my equal, my partner, one half of our whole. What keeps us together is the regard in which we hold each other, the love in our hearts, the vows that we took. Dont get me wrong...marriage is f-ing hard. It is a lot easier to support oneself, to only have to worry about your own well being, to only concern yourself with your own wants and dreams, to never have to compromise. But it's also damn lonely. (I wonder if that's why you are the way you are?) As much as there are times that I want to stratch his eyes out, there are also the times that my heart ACHES with the love I feel for him. Would I give that up just so I wouldn't have to fold someone else's laundry? Not in a million years. Would he give that up so he wouldn't have to take out someone else's trash? Hasn't happened yet.
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David should read more US Weekly
[Read the article: David Brooks takes on pop music]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]If he did he'd know that Avril married at age 22, Pink at 27. Only Carrie Underwood is unmarried, yes at the ripe old age of 24! Maybe if you added up all of the dating years between the three you'd get a "formless premarital life".
And if he did a little research he'd find that "Before He Cheats" was written by two men. U + UR Hand was cowritten by Pink with 3 others (all male). The title came from something that she heard a guy say in a club after he was turned down ("Oh well it's just me and my hand tonight"). "Girlfriend" was also co-written by a man (Lukasz Gottwald). And funnily enough he and Lavigne are being sued because the chorus may have been taken from a 1979 song "I wanna be your boyfriend." These pop songs are nothing different than anything that came along before. There is as much weight to them as marshmallow fluff. Trying to read too much into them is just futile, let's leave it at "they've got a great beat and you can dance to them."
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no pigs sprouting wings here
[Read the article: The Empathy Belly]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Here's a link an article about the study: http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/07/070705120756.htm.
But I don't see anything groundbreaking. The study was small and limited: 72 couples and based only on self reported questionnaires and then the researchers "scoring" videotaped sessions where the couples discussed the issues in the survey. There was no tracking of long term behaviours or actions vs words. The researchers came in with the expectation that the husbands would wield more "marital power" but found instead that wives are "taking responsibility and power in these relationships. So at least for relatively satisfied couples, women are able to take some responsibility and are able to exert some power." The researchers admit "it's hard for us to say why that's so." So couples in marriages that they rates as happy communicate to each other and the husbands listen and agree with their wives. Why is that so strange? Isn't the converse true, that unhappy marriages occur where the partners don't communicate and don't agree? I'd be interested to see if the husbands that gave in to the wives actually followed through with action or not. I know that I've agreed to things just to get my husband to leave me be and then not followed through on it. (reminder to self: clean litter box before DH comes home from class tonight) I definitely know that my husband nods and smiles when I'm talking to him and it means nothing more than "I'm watching SportsCenter right now, please be quiet."