It's easy for my neighbors to point out who I am. I'm "that white girl on the block". When I got married, my husband became "that white guy". My city is predominantly black, my politicians are black, my school system is black and my neighborhood is black. I'm I don't presume to think that they need me, they certainly don't as *I am* the minority here. But this is where I like living, it's also where I can afford to live. My neighbors and I don't have the same background, but we want a lot of the same things. We want good schools for our kids, we want the guys dealing drugs on the corner to leave those kids alone, we want our city to provide services like fixing the damn potholes and the torn up bus stop bench on our street, we want to keep our property taxes at a decent level so we can keep our houses, we want the police to show up when we call them that shots have been fired, actually we'd really like to not have shots fired at all.

And I know that abortion is not at the top of my neighbors lists of concerns (although affordable health care is and PP is one of the few sources for that). We can certainly disagree about the motives of PP, NOW and the Democrats. Good lord, you don't need to buy the crap the white liberal whatever is selling you, but here's the thing. If you want to talk about "Klan Parenthood", have you taken a look at the overlap between white supremicist groups and the pro-life movement? That sh*t scares me. You see, I'm not white or pure enough for those people. So when your community supports a movement like that, it very much affects me. And I'm almost 100% sure that neither of our communities will benefit from them.

Some unknown person wrote: "Is it better for a woman who has lost her libido for years due to, say, childbirth, to wear the patch and become sexually interested in her husband again; or is it better for her to be 'true to herself', not wear the patch, and greatly increase the liklihood of divorce and infidelity?"

Uh, if she wants to find her libido again and have sex then how would using this patch make her untrue to herself? My husband is nearly blind without corrective lenses...should he wear glasses and be able to see or should he "stay true to himself" and increase the likelihood of walking into doors and falling down stairs?

If a woman is going to her doctor to get a patch so that she can get her libido back how is that any different than my husband going to the eye doctor to get his prescription. Indeed this is an equipment problem, it's just one that is more complex than increasing blood flow to erectile tissue. Lots of women complain that they've lost their sex drive and they want it back. Why should we not offer this as an option to them?

As to the Paxil person, please contact your doctor about switching to another anti-anxiety med. Paxil has notouriously bad sexual side affects. Paxil affects both your levels of desire and the ability to physically climax. At some point the sexual side affects became so overwhelming that the other benefits of Paxil hardly seemed worth it. I switched to Lexapro which helped a little and finally Wellbutrin. You just need to find one that works for you.