I thought the article itself was pretty interesting especially the contrast between Gen-Y brides vs Gen X. I'm not going to rain on anyone's parade (or uh ceremonial march down the aisle), but yes it is disturbing that young people are spending so much time on their weddings vs their relationship. I wonder about the girls that plan these extravaganza's and I wonder about the men that seem to just going along with it. My sister in law was one such person and it boggles my husband and myself how a person who has never paid rent, lived alone(I mean without even a roommate), balanced a check book or supported themselves is ready for a life time committment with someone who has never done those things either. But maybe they don't understand how my husband and I (30 and 31 when married) spent all those years alone and how we are going to able to mesh our independent lives together. Who knows the mystery of the heart? And if anything can be said about all marriages is that they all are different and all look different from the inside vs the outside.

Now did I enjoy being "special" on the day of my wedding. Sure I did. After all the hard work and expense the my husband and I put in making sure that we pleased our respective families and in making sure that our guests enjoyed themselves, we deserved it. I don't think I was playing dress-up anymore than I am when I wear my business suit to the office. Our wedding was a formal event, I wore a dress (not the now very common white strapless ballgown thing everyone seems to wear, but a lovely ivory and gold sheath) and clean underwear. My husband wore a suit and tie, and (hopefully clean underwear). Should we have shown up in sweats and t-shirts? How mature would that be?

"The bottom line is this: whether you are pro-life or pro-choice, feminist or traditionalist: it would do you good to tend to your own house before you come clean mine." -alizoom

Actually I like to think of it as OUR house. That goes for rural white women too ("Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere."--sound familiar?). I'm no more upset about crisis pregnancy clinics in the city vs the ones in the country. They all pretty much tells lies and don't provide any real support no matter where they are located. I've been to one, they use scare tactics and offer NO medical assistance to women in need. They hand you some brochures and give you used baby clothes and a stack of diapers. Yeah, that helps. I don't want any woman to feel that she has to have an abortion because she has no other choice. I also don't want any woman to feel that she has to raise a child because she has no other choice. And I don't want women to be too scared to get help because of the "pro-lifers" who picket the clinic (or even worse, fire-bomb it). My best friend has to cross in front of people screaming baby killer every time she goes to the clinic to get her PAP smear and depo shot. Yeah, those people are definitely pro-life.

If you don't like PP or NOW, that's all up to you. And no I don't presume to have an opinion about what a black woman should do when she faces an unintended pregancy. I am not a black woman and I'll never be one, but I've been a scared kid who got herself pregnant. And I want to make sure that every woman has the same support and choices that I did. I don't need you to "love" me, but if you get in bed with the ring wing pro-lifers, I will judge you. I'll judge you as a fool, because there's nothing good for any of us coming from those people.