As a Planned Parenthood member, I received their email concerning Target's emergency contraception policy and used their form letter to complain to Target. A day later I found Target's inadequate response in my inbox, and I'm so glad to see that Planned Parenthood and others are calling Target on their ass-covering email. Four years ago, I had a condom break on me and was able to get a prescription for Plan B online and get it filled at my local CVS without any problems.

Until Target changes their policy so that their employees cannot harass or denigrate their customers IN ADDITION to dispensing their prescriptions in a timely manner, I'll be cancelling my Target card and shopping elsewhere.

Of course, the best of both worlds would be that EC is approved for OTC dispensation and then I could have my morals and my Mizrahi faux suede boots too!

Not hardly. The article states "A man in a powerful position is generally regarded as inherently sexy, and that sexiness is not viewed as provocative or in conflict with his professional responsibilities." In what office is the author working??? I can state with 100% certainty that the uppper management in my East Coast banking company are NOT SEXY. On a whole, they are middle aged, grey-haired, mostly bald, out of shape white guys. Nothing that would stand out and scream hottie, and I'd really want to poke my eyes out if any one of them came into the office shirtless or (God forbid) in leather pants.

Good lord are you people stupid or what? A 4 year old child does not and should not hear the gory details about their cousin's murder. Some conversations are ADULT conversations and should not take place in front of a young child who can't fully understand the issues. Do you take your kids to rated R movies and expect them to understand what's going on? Cary wasn't saying that the in-laws shouldn't talk about their loss, just that it shouldn't be done in front of the kids. And he put the burden of protecting the kids on their parents, not on the in-laws. Nor was he saying that the kids shouldn't be told about what happened or lied to but that the parents should explain what happened in more simplified terms and to reassure them so they wouldn't be confused and scared. Get a hold on your own baggage, it was never suggested that what happened should be swept under the carpet and that the family should pretend that this horrible tragedy never occurred. In fact, Cary tells the LW to talk to their kids about this at length when they are older and can better understand what happened.

Is a realistic plan to pull out of Iraq that lays out how we can do that without leaving our mess behind for the Iraqis to try to clean up on their own. Personally I think we shouldn't have gone to war, I think we should have found some better way to get rid of Saddam. As a previous writer asked, "isn't Iraq better off without Saddam." And honestly I can't answer that, is one version of hell better than another? Since a military occupation to build Iraq isn't working, has someone proposed another solution? If so, we get some links posted? I'd like to see what's out there other than just the "stay the course" vs "cut and run" rhetoric.

Here is Cary's advice:

"Then, without being too doctrinaire or starchy about it, let your in-laws know that if the topic comes up, say, at the dinner table where children are present, you are going to ask that it not be discussed in front of the children, and that if it is discussed, you are going to remove the children from the room. Tell them this in advance as a courtesy, so that if you should quietly get up and take the children, they will understand why."

What does this paragraph mean:

1. Ask the relatives not to discuss in front of children in a polite manner. They not being told to not talk about the situation at all, in fact Cary makes a point in his first paragraph that the adults involved should talk about the tragedy as much as they need to together without children around.

2. If the relatives want to talk in front of the children, then it is the LW's responsibility to remove the children without disturbance to the grieving relatives.

3. Let the relatives know about your plan for the kids ahead of time so you don't appear rude and so they know what's going on.

As far as CosmicMojo comment that holiday dinner is an adult situation, obviously the relatives know that they are inviting over young family members for the holidays, thus making dinner NOT AN ADULTS ONLY ENVIRONMENT. Perhaps my example of bringing kids to an R rated movie was not accurate. Instead it's more like showing an R rated movie during dinner at the local Applebees.

I had friends that brought their baby to our local bar all of the time. They were the 1st of our crowd to get knocked up so they didn't want to miss hanging out with the rest of us for happy hour. Granted where I live there are no true bars. Due to state laws, all establishments serving alcohol must also have a certain percentage of their sales in food. But still, they'd put the baby carrier up on the bar and knock back a few. And if we wanted to smoke we had to take turns going to the non-baby end of the bar. The kid was perfectly well behaved, tucked away in his sleeper with all the drunk people peeking in on him pinching his cheeks. We all thought it was cute at the time, but now that I'm considering having kids I look back and think "what the hell!?!"