You need to develop boundaries. You are not responsible for your boss's behaviour, and so whatever she says, you are entitled to sit there, listen politely, and dismiss it, or accept it, or take a 'let's wait and see' approach and make some kind of call about what kind of a person your boss is later on down the line. Two months in is WAY too early to call.

Sounds to me like you are too sensitive, and have a passive aggressive approach to power and status dynamics at work. You want people to live according to your standards of behaviour, and you're tellign yourself this is because you are such a good person. Do you know how hard it is to be a boss at hte company you work at? Do you know if what she says might be true about those coworkers? My advice is look and listen. You have the opportunity here to learn a lot.

My take on the workplace is that it's the jungle, without the phsyical violence and the desperate hunt for food. Otherwise, it's the same. You shouldn't be expecting everyone to play nicey nice. Things could be a lot worse for you - she could be bitching to everyone about YOU. Then you would have a problem. As it is you are just being asked to listen to someone else's problem.

I thought the whole Bill/Ana thing was very well done. It was really disturbing when he and Ana fell on the bed together in a fit of passion - suddenly I was confronted by what Bill's beliefs really were. And the show showed him being confronted too. He pulled back. He showed his confusion over what was lust and what was the Holy Spirit, and I thought it was hysterically perceptive and funny the way it had him and his support circle of male polygamist friends all experiencing it that way. 'You're goign along,everything's going great and then BAM! the Holy Spirit sends you another woman!' I really think that's how religion works sometimes. It can blind you to the most obvious pitfalls, and open up whole new vistas where none woudl be to the normal eye. In this case that's Margene, who decides to court Ana on Bill's behalf and on her own. There is a great scene where Margene challenges Bill's male entitlement - why shouldn't she be part of the choosing process for another wife? why shoudln't her love for Ana count? Her purity of spirit shines an uncomfortable light on his motivations with Ana and that's in part why he pulls away from her I htink. When Margeen says 'at the beginning between us, wasn't it just lust?' He says no. And I believe him. Margene has a Marilyn Monroe-esque atmosphere of beauty and purity and vulnerability. 'It was love' says Bill, and I believed him.

I thought the second series was even better than the first. Here's hoping I find the third one even better.

I love what Tacroy80 posted way back near the beginning of this thread.

"Different aspects of sex mean different things to different people. Period. Nobody should be telling you what you should and shouldn't want, or should and shouldn't feel comfortable with.

And besides, pretty much anyone is likely to find that no matter what their particular proclivities happen to be, there are plenty of other like-minded souls out there. You just have to know where to look."

Why is this SO DIFFICULT for so many people to understand? Why is the LWs desire to remain a virgin any more or less acceptable than someone else's desire to get laid as much as possible? I've often noticed how intolerant the most righteouusly open minded can be. Promiscuity is the fashion these days just like virginity (or the pretense thereof) used to be in the fifties.

And I so love what Cary wrote here - I've stuck it up next to my desk on my study wall. Just in case my happily married mind ever gets to wanderin ...

"If you play erotic games of desire and power, a moment may come when you are so turned on that all reason leaves you and you are nothing but your wanting, nothing but your screaming animal desire, no thoughts of justice, no plans for the future, no love of virginity, nothing but the moment and what you want, and in this moment if you are like millions of men and women throughout the millennia you will do what you did not plan to do. So prepare. Respect the power of your own erotic nature; meditate upon this most evolutionarily important aspect of the species: that we are designed to fuck and fuck a lot. Respect this part of yourself. Ready yourself and carry condoms. And if that moment comes, be ready to say I may give in to it and if I do give in to it, that does not mean I have failed; it just means I am human. I did what my species was designed to do."