Letters to the Editor
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Published Letters: 560 Editor's Choice: 23
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people are strange
[Read the article: My new roommate arrived ... with mom attached!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This is disturbing. It is not appropriate, especially because she is a subletter, to have another person staying with her in your apartment. You have every right to feel uneasy and you are not paranoid or too "American" or selfish. It is a business agreement, and in this case that means money for a room to accomodate one person. You have the right to inform her she has to vacate (in most cities).
What would bother me most about this situation is the time and energy they are stealing. How incredibly selfish and rude! Home is where you relax and feel safe while you lower your guard. It can be a fragile ecosystem where negative outside influences can wreak havoc. You do not need to be involved in their drama, it has nothing to do with you. Medical, cultural and financial issues they may have are not your problem. I've lived in many apartments in big and small-ish towns, with roommates and alone but this is pretty bad. A few days is fine, even up to a week, but they are taking this too far.
I feel for you. Stand tall, get clear on your legal rights and move fast! Of course, if you do ask them to vacate, have someone there with you when that happens. Good luck!
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a miss
[Read the article: Mom's a pothead]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Cary- I am bummed, really for the first time, about your response. You are right on only one point: that this is a symptom. What part of the letter made you think that the Mother abandoned her son? It is a back injury and pot is a painkiller that has been around a long time. It's not as if this is something new. You, a DARE supporter? I never imagined. Are you just afraid to lose your position if you offered a view that might be considered sympathetic to drug users?
Also, I am confused about the letter writer's angle. Are we to assume you are concerned for the 15 year old and that he may make good on his all or nothing threats? That the family will implode somehow because he is throwing down the gauntlet? You are one of her best girlfriends? Too bad for her. The only thing you should suggest is that she keep the pot away from the family and use greater discretion. It really isn't your business to judge what your friends use as medication. In a perfect world, your friend would not need it, unless she wanted to relax and have some fun once in a while, but it seems she does. Too bad it isn't a perfect world, that people have pain, make mistakes and are even anxious or uptight and need to relax.
Here's another suggestion- Why not make pot legal? For those seeking to pay off some US debt, imagine the tax windfall! People talking about jail time, you know the people the LW is asking about do NOT belong in jail. The Mom does need to be more discreet and could keep it away from her home. Since this is getting her family so upset, one can only hope she hides it entirely now. It, meaning the pot, is not the problem. The communication with the 15 year old, is a problem. The father's kid gloves and lack of involvement in this quarrel is a problem. Family therapy perhaps?
This letter has this polarizing debate in it's thread and I say that it doesn't have to be that way. The mother is an adult who can do what she likes in her own home. She just needs to modify her behavior a little so she doesn't end up like the Mom in Weeds( Showtime series)...joke there. Give her a break, it's not that bad! There are letter writers suggesting the son turn his own mother into the authorities? What purpose would this serve?
The "authorities" get a few free bags of bud and a family is ruined irreparably, financially, structurally, emotionally. F-ing zealots! YOU are the problem in the U.S. It is you, not pot, not someone's mom, you the judgemental, fingerpointing, tsk-tsk-ing, shaming self-righteous hypocrites. Take care of your own life. Period. Mind the gap, people.
To these zealots: I bet if we dissected your family life from the rear window, it would be quite revealing. Probably not that interesting, but revealing nonetheless.
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peace to LW and barbs to those suggesting jail
[Read the article: Mom's a pothead]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Thank you letter writer for chiming in because it does actually sound as if you care and are moving slowly and thoughtfully with this. I offer my apologies for saying you weren't a good friend and for questioning you in my last post.
To those who advocate jail time for the Mom:
Suggesting the son send his own mom to the big house, yes, right next to Lester the molester and Rudy the rapist. Are you serious? Are you living on this planet and have you actually been to a jail?
After all, pot smokers are so very dangerous and deserve to be beaten and sodomized with the rest of the animals. Oh, but sodomy is illegal, so of course it wouldn't happen to her in jail. Of course you can imagine what arresting Mom would do to that family, the son, his sibling, the Dad, and anyone else already hurting in this situation.
Also, on a few side notes, Dad may need to get more involved. I enjoyed that some people mentioned all the big pharma options pointing out the hypocrisy of the alarmists. Thankful someone mentioned that truth!
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to manyctnj
[Read the article: Mom's a pothead]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]So you now write that you are for legalizing pot and yet, in your earlier post you called Cary a pothead and said the kid should turn his mother into the authorities. Getting the police invoved via the son was your initial response.
Which is it? You can't have it both ways.
In "your book" as you say, have you lost your mind or just your memory?