Letters to the Editor
edziu's muse
Published Letters: 520 Editor's Choice: 21
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imagination
[Read the article: My boyfriend is nice, but I fantasize about wilder times]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I can imagine a Salon party filled with us... the posters, the ones who publish here often, especially in Cary's section. We'd dutifully wear our nametags with our "real" Salon names. We'd be laughing and see a disconnect from word to skin. It would be fun, really funny too. Can you imagine this?
I keep trying to think of something, anything, I can write in about so that I can hear what this community of voices has to say. Or like Talking Heads say, "Watch out, you might get what you're after..." b/c sometimes these posts really let people have it! (David Byrne, geesh, I keep dating myself.)
OK, no idea where I was going with that....maybe to Vegas? Yikes, but I do think this kind of stuff doesn't go away. That you, LW, have to find some sort of way, (nicely outlined by the many posts here!) to feed this need to create and be understood, to feel passion and intensity. It is true you can't expect your guy to be your everything. However, if he's really just 'exisiting' and gaming maybe he's too dull for you? He deserves at least this: say these things TO him, now.
Also know that 'tis true, the grass just appears to be greener. If you do dabble, stay away from rock stars, ahem.
No sense in wasting time Dear LW, imagine all the interesting stuff ahead, with or without your beau! Good luck.
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East Bay Babes
[Read the article: I'm an analytical chemist with a two-body problem]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Dear LW,
It was easy for me to gather my things from the stuffy little apt in NYC and pack it up for SF. I didn't do it for a lover, but to get away from one. I would have come here for someone in your situation though. Not because West Cost beats East Coast or Bay Area is better than Toronto for what you aim to do, but because my opportunities this way were better. In your sitch, it sounds like JeffC47 is dialed in to the industry and offers sound advice.
When I say "opportunities" though, I mean more than just your career. I feel, and I don't want to start a turf war here, that the West Coast, specifically the Bay Area rocks. Getting into the details of this statement would take up much more time and space than Salon will offer, so you'll have to see for yourself. I grew up a few hours from Toronto which is a nice place... to visit. If the co. in Toronto wants you now and you work a bit so you are less green, won't they want you even more? You'll have to forgive my ignorance about your industry at your current crossroad.
That's the thing about crossroads, it is a powerful exciting time which may lead you to pure alchemy-as in "paradoxical results are achieved or incompatible elements combined with no obvious rational explaination."
To play devil's advocate, I wonder how you will feel if you land on the left coast and find it brutal, just awful? ( I suppose someone from somewhere has felt that way?) Will you resent her and destroy what you've got? And will all this pressure cause you to scruitinize your young relationship to shreds? Also, is she that into you?
You don't sound passionate about this person, but maybe that is how a scientist communicates, in measurements and comparisons. I didn't read that you were mad about her, love her deeply and cannot be away from her gaze, her body, that skin, voice, scent. (Man, I am getting all excited here!) You didn't say that she was the one and only who lights you up or that she is the one you want to be with forever. Don't people say such things anymore or are we all logical and cautious?
So part of this reader wants you to grab your opp. and do distance (torturous) and the other says come West! It is amazing out here and if for some reason you don't like the vibe, you can move again in a few years. You sound driven and focused and that goes with you no matter where you live. You'll be thriving anywhere if you work that way.
Also, yes, the Toronto "chicks" are hot, (maybe the French influence in the great white north?) but Bay Area has more beauty than anywhere in the world. The total package, eh?
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saturday night live skit
[Read the article: I work with the most annoying man alive]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wF3r4iBVrUg just as an example!
Your co-worker watches too much tv.
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kitty not happy
[Read the article: I work with the most annoying man alive]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I just went back in and read the prev. posts about this.
AKA, darn right, Quiet Type is very funny. I choked on my coffee laughing and, guess what, now I need a new keyboard.
Now where do they sell those Kitty Not Happy shirts?
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control of our lil' universe
[Read the article: In the midst of joy, I have dark thoughts]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]So you say: "These negative thoughts are small notions drifting among the countless happier ones I have. I do not dwell on the negatives. They do not get in the way of our happiness, and they do not prevent me from enjoying life."
And I say: Welcome to parenting, reality, loving another human more than yourself. Isn't it scary and beautiful? Sometimes I think of it as parts of my own body walking around outside of myself. It's bizarre.
Since I know you watch news, read news, process news, you probably know too much. Know that the truth is, you aren't always in control and that is OK.