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Published Letters: 517 Editor's Choice: 21
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Great advice Cary!
[Read the article: My husband doesn't want to have sex with me]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]When I stop workouts or strenuous physical activities for a few days, I become impatient, after a few more days I am cranky and resentful, and a week later all hell breaks loose. You are right on with the need for sweat!
So, LW, I feel for you even though I haven't experienced this sort of 'neglect'. You are both in a gloomy place and I offer that the disconnect of our automobile and consumer-driven society probably doesn't help. Depression and stress seem related so do whatever it is you can to make your lives more about fun and less about responsibility. Beg borrow and steal so that you get date nights (or overnights) and have moments of completely reckless frivolity, enjoying each other and flirting. It's tough with children, but it can be done no matter what your situation.
The changes you described present a challenge. They would for anyone! I've been through those and know that it can take a few years to get settled into a lifestyle that really works. I hope you find the right way and wish I could offer more. There will be plenty of people here with interesting advice, but extract the wild hairs if they come. They seem to enjoy bringing others down, which is not what you need right now. See you at the gym.
P.S. If you do get to Paris, don't go in winter or during a transportation strike and if you are American... don't forget to duck. It would be brutal to spend that amount of money and be treated like a dog by people who assume you voted for Bush because you don't speak perfect French. Cary must know a fabulous massage therapist there to be talking like that.
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Overblown ceremony that you don't want to attend
[Read the article: I don't want to go to my college friend's wedding]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Sometimes the guest list is long enough so that you are doing them a favor by not going anyway. Don't get me wrong, some people may take it personally. 99% of the time it is not personal and your friend will probably realize this fact.
Just send a nice gift with a sincere and heartfelt personal note to the bride.
There was a year that I attended maybe a dozen weddings all over the country. In hindsight, it would not have mattered much if I had not been there. Most were fun though. Don't sweat this one, really, there are plenty of things to worry about but this ain't one of them!
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Can you hear me now?
[Read the article: I hit my sister in the head with my purse when I drink]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I have nothing to offer you LW, but damn your letter and Cary's reply are fantastic!
Everyone has some crazy person (or two or three) rearranging the furniture and banging around up there. You just dragged the crazy person into the light and that took courage. I am speaking to LW but also to Cary. There are vivid pictures in this writing and a nod to the crazy person in each of us that cannot be ignored.
Now what to do with him? Do we submerge him and lock it up or do we let him dance? Whatever you decide, just don't pour alcohol on him!
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I almost fell out of my chair...
[Read the article: I hit my sister in the head with my purse when I drink]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Afro Goddess cracks me up!
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Only a step away
[Read the article: I hit my sister in the head with my purse when I drink]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I've done so many stupid things, a few that I deeply regret. Can you guess what the common denominator was?
The booze. Bad stuff after one or two, just bad any way you look at it.
LW, it can take you down for good. What an opportunity, that you are realizing it now and not in 20 years looking back on a demolished life. Some of these letters seem helpful, this is one sharp peanut gallery we have here! Cary's story is important here too. Madness is always a step away, no need to assist your own demise.
Can you do a glass of wine or two with dinner and stop there? If the answer is no, I'll chime in and say get help quick. I've been thinking about the candid urgency of your letter since last night and feel badly for all involved. You aren't alone even though you feel misunderstood. You will be entirely alone if you keep this up though.
Make sure too that your purse isn't filled with quarters (funny, XJs).
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Yes Yes Yes!
[Read the article: Why Mother's Day?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]That was almost orgasmic. To have validation and a high five from the fine pen of GK.
Thank you, you've made my day!
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I've gotta admit something
[Read the article: "What Happens in Vegas"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Ashton Kutcher is very nice to look at and so is Diaz. Now I may be biased because I have a little crush on the former, and kinda wanted to see this.
But here is what killed it for me:
Another formulaic story about a loser/slacker and a high strung anxious perfectionist overworked girlfriend? The Hollywood money truck pulled up and people forgot that stimulating and unique are both crucial for a movie.
Or wait, is it whatever makes the most money by sheer dumbness... oh, I mean numbers.
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Feeling grateful tonight...
[Read the article: Are men victims of forced abortions?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]...that I don't live in China.
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Two words:
[Read the article: Little girl lost, little girl found]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Wow and thanks.