LW,

This creepy pathetic professor LACKS BOUNDARIES and is a caricature

( Hollywood awaits )!

My college had at least one, and the stories I knew to be true were things that happened off campus that would make heads spin! However, it always plays out without telling superiors. I was made aware of several incidents in high school too, one was a band teacher and when I see him and think of what he did to those young girls I get angry. College though, grad school... is different.

Unless you have a contractual obligation to report what you were told, I wonder if it's worth it for you. Truth tellers and whistle blowers are not popular. Your name would forever be linked with this creepy guy who made awkward attempts to get in the pants of a subordinate. Really not worth your energy and time. Use this opp. to be a better teacher, a better friend, a more present partner to your own lover(s).

The posters who are distracting and mean are like the bullies on the playground. Not fun, hot helpful, not even interesting and definitely in need of some therapy .... or something!

I say too, shake em off!

I agree with posters like Christopher1988 and The Rambler.

Man, some "anonymous" and others are being tough on this YOUNG person asking for advice! Get your head out of your a**, this is a war, not a job! She doesn't come from money, didn't have many options and made a mistake.

I am sure you never made any mistakes in your youth, so stay on your high horses and keep judging and ridiculing people, that will get you far!

That was funny, and I agree! Not the part about spilling on the keyboard, I did that a few weeks ago. Just... WHAT is going on with these posts about and by this LW?

"...and while other presidents have sucked in their own individual ways, Bush is like a smorgasbord of suck."

I am stealing his words and using them often! That is what we love about Maher, he makes us shake with laughter instead of rage. It's something to be grateful for because "Hard times ain't quit...".

Arby34950, and whizkid: You said it! It's ridiculous, but at least we can laugh about it along with Maher.

Anonymous, you said it!

Scam Sam or whatever the poster calls Him/Herself is like the party guest who just won't leave.

Meet you after school Sam scram skim scam, anytime. You me and a knuckle sandwich!

Extra nutty,

just like you.

Why do people do this stuff? Self-loathing? Sick? Unloved? Vain and maybe money to burn? I feel sick thinking about it and consider it a turn off in part because they are trying too hard to look more sexy in most cases. Think bad 80's porn.

Try this: Go to the gym. Or smile, that's attractive.

Cut it out(no pun)!

What you said in quotes below is exactly what I meant about bullies on this playground! Geesh, we are just trying to keep this light and it got bizarre. Let's call it an abberation.

"It is true this is only the internet, but there are real human beings behind every computer. In a sense, the LW is in the room. She made clear that she was very much in the room by responding to letters criticizing her. This was her way of saying, "Ouch." These days, apparently, saying you hurt is a cue for pack behavior."

LW, AKA and many others who called some of these bullies out, well they are correct. At least you can take solace in the fact that not much of this rambling had anything to do with you. Just a bunch of projection and mean-spirited monologue. It happens everywhere, and I hope you don't let it stick to you. Bottom line, Salon is still a place that is fun and filled with thoughtful interesting people.

Realname you are so funny...THANK YOU!

I Really enjoyed the crack about "sociopath meetings"!

See you there. Oh, I'll bring the coffee this time.

LW,

Leeches, takers, people who only look out for themselves are everywhere. Most of them are ill in some way. You work hard and have your own family to care for. You don't owe him or anyone else anything specific. If you continue to enable him, it will go badly and you'll become increasingly resentful and bitter. You and your family are being dragged down by someone who you have given power to.

I feel very badly for you LW and cannot imagine the sufffering this is causing. Cary is right on here though. Some of these posts offer helpful sites and info that you can utilize to get out from under this tremendous pressure. I have seen this happen in my own family and in the families of those around me under the guise of unconditional love. When someone remains ill and those around him/her are just trying to be kind or helpful, it can go very badly. Seek support as Cary says, find things that strengthen your resolve!

I know someone who is a giver, who gives expecting nothing, not even a positive outcome. He is unattached to the end product in any situation and offers unlimited time, energy, money, love, friendship, and kindness everywhere he goes. He is perhaps one of the most self-less humans I know. Maybe this is what he believes he is meant to do and maybe he can handle it, I don't know. You don't have to do this, it is not your job to care for your delinquent brother.

Repeat after me: I am not responsible for my brother. He is an adult, like me. I can offer him love without being his saviour.