Letters to the Editor
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Published Letters: 520 Editor's Choice: 21
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Banjo song won't go away
[Read the article: Somebody sent child protective services to my house!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]LW,
I'd have a similar initial reaction to this malicious betrayal. You must be anxious and angry and as well as disillusioned with your church. While we are on the topic of church: if you follow a Christian faith you must know this is a fantastic challenge for your faith. To be tested in this way, when you must want to kill the anonymous tipper, is actually a gift. Also, it will allow you the opportunity to be more focused on your parenting skills and communication with your child.
Try if you can to make it smaller in the big picture of a life. Easy to type here from my distance, but really, if you are a good Mom, they can't do anything to you. You have more rights than you probably realize. Don't give power to their thirst for a witch hunt. Certain people spend their entire lives participating in witch hunts.
By the way, where the heck are you living? The theme song to Deliverance keeps popping into my head.
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An idea
[Read the article: It's gift-giving time, and I'm cranky about gift cards and pushy kids]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Without reading any of the posts, I just want to say that when I was little I was happy to get anything given at any time. Holidays have become insanity. Children (and adults) are spoiled. It's a bummer.
So I guess I agree with you mostly LW. But here is another thought:
Why don't you suggest that in lieu of that list on the fridge, your entire family donate any "gifts" to a non-profit or some kids who really are needing a gift?
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One good man?
[Read the article: If the first date isn't great, why go out with him again? ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]LW,
I agree with you. I don't have time to go through the other posts, so forgive if this is a rehash of something already sent. I think chemistry is there or it isn't and that a person can tell pretty quickly. It's too bad that in your life right now you are seeing potential mates in 2D and reading about them online. It's impossible to tell the type of chemistry you speak of that way. It's complicated.
Also, where you live and your lifestyle is making you feel this sense of urgency. When you said that we all need friends you were onto something. Maybe stop seeking Mr. Perfect and start opening to Mr. Let's just hang out. After all, a "mate" isn't going to make everything perfect, and you may have some fun anyway!
Cary, I enjoy your rants and when you go off on a tangent. I hope you never stop your unique brand of storytelling. Your column and the variety of posts are both fun, so thanks.
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"I'll Make Ya Famous"
[Read the article: Our partnership with Current]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]It it great to see your faces, I dig it! Since childhood, I've had a preoccupation with writers and their lives. I didn't just want to read Tolstoy, I wanted to know where he lived, how he acted in social situations, etc. Not that we see your lives in a viddie, but at least we see you are real, live, capable of facial expressions and inflection! Unlike say, "The VC Andrews Trust" or other writers who seem to churn out words, even from 6 feet under.
I was thrilled to meet some people in my travels who write for or used to write for Salon. It rounds out the picture for this reader. Besides, video is optional. Distracting for some who want pure words, but this is a new age and Salon belongs in it.
Now, where is Cary and Heather Hav? How about some readers too, that would be entertaining. Although I enjoy that the posts are judged solely on material, it would be interesting to have a face with the name at times. I have some faves and look for their posts. Could be scary, but always entertaining.
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ambivalent
[Read the article: A friend is involved in Scientology. Should I interfere?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]When I read your letter, all I could think of was " RUN! RUN! RUN!", but Cary had to take the high road and I concur. Still, something bothers me about this situation you are in. Maybe it's the way you want to rescue her. Are you new friends, just friends? I recognize the kind and loving thing to do would probably be to stick around and just be the fun friend, without judgement or even questions. Is that entirely authentic?
If she resists, maybe it's a good idea to distance yourself from this person. I have some experience in philosophy and religion and share your academic interest in this field. This just doesn't sound right though, especially her reaction to your query. My best friend got tangled with Scientology many years ago and they are creepy. They sound like robots, I hear you. Good luck with this one.
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My Mormon buddy
[Read the article: A friend is involved in Scientology. Should I interfere?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]For some reason, this letter has been rattling in my dusty head all day and since some posts mention the Mormon faith I'll just add this:
I am currently friends with a woman who happens to be a Mormon. I disagree with the philosophy they have but would never presume to get involved in her spiritual life. Her religious choice only comes into play if I say, " Hey, let's have a drink!" or "Want to go for a coffee?" Even then, she'll go along and have something else. She's funny, lovable and kind. I value our friendship but know that after a certain point it can't go any deeper.
LW, you seem to want to go deeper with this friend. Because Scientology presents a unique challenge for the doubters, you may want to think about this need you have to rescue her. As I've said, I hear you on the creepy factor, but human beings are multi-faceted and that is not defining her entire existence.