Letters to the Editor
Tyler_Mason
Published Letters: 490 Editor's Choice: 41
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@Arcarsenal
[Read the article: Dude, where's my manhood?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Yes, the behavior you've observed in your straight male friends is typical. You'll be interested to know that we generally come around in a few years. I think the root cause is our very strong desire to provide and protect. It is so strong for many of us that it seems to be nature and not nurture.
On the other hand, I've met few similarly driven gay men. Go figure.
Regardless, it's tough to feel like you're providing and protecting without going to work and then parking your ass at home like a sickly lion surveying his domain. The other part of it is that we're pigs and have to put up with fits and recrimination whenever she's reminded of the fact.
We tend to distance from our single guy friends (for a while) because we can't hang out and play like we used to. As we get older, we learn to balance things better. Part of the balance is learning to get away from the better half. We have to behave around women. I'm sure they behave around us. Seriously, if you can't talk about nut sacks or shitting outside then you're not hanging with the guys.
We tend not to bond with the guys in our woman's social circle because we're bored. We're busily nodding our heads, making small talk, and not really laughing. If the women leave us to ourselves with some booze, they often return to find us intolerable but bonded. Even then, it takes months because you never know who tells stuff to his wife.
It's always dangerous to mix couple stuff with our guy friends. It's workable if the other guys are also coupled up AND their woman is present. Otherwise, someone may delight in implying that you have secrets that they know or that you blabbed your girl's secrets. She might also insist that you defend her honor from the friend that merely complemented her tits. Very awkward. Especially if you were espousing the wonders of her tits when she wasn't around.
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@Ballsee
[Read the article: Dude, where's my manhood?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Your right. I don't know many gay men who chose to raise kids. In fact, I only know one such couple. Regardless, the discussion was about straight male attitudes and in particular the tendency of some men to hole up with their woman. If you inferred gay bashing in that, it's your problem, not mine.
The only thing I'm fairly sure of about gay guys is that they're as much a bunch of pigs as the rest of us. Other than that, its a segment of society I'm not involved with. I quit touring the gay community when I realized that I'd never belong unless I sucked a cock. It's silly to loiter outside a community when you can join a different one or embrace the one you're in.
So, Ballsee, why don't you propose a theory of your own? Afraid someone will throw darts? Do gay men tend to hole up with their honeys? If not, why not? C'mon man, offer your own line of BS.
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chasing the hispanic vote in NM is a bit silly
[Read the article: Obama in New Mexico: No Latino voter left behind]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I live in NM. Everyone is politically divided regardless of race. The southern part of the state is republican. The northern part is democrat. It's tradition. Excepting the transplants, race isn't much of a factor. Beliefs aren't much of a factor either.
Some freeper wrote about stolen elections in NM. Umm, yeah. What's new? One of our largest voting blocks is the dead. Another is invalids and shut-ins. In northern NM, they swing dem. In southern NM they swing rep. We haven't had an unquestionable election since people started paying attention about ten years ago.
About those transplants, some areas are changing because of migration. Santa fe and taos have been filling with californians. The places actually feels like CA with a little contrived "quaintness" thrown about. They've been filling up Espanola too. They stand around in Dandy Burger demanding better service and bitching about the manana attitude. Any campaigning in those places really amounts to photo ops aimed at the californicators that haven't decamped yet.
Meanwhile, places like Ruidoso are suburbs of Dallas. Lots of texans. Big blonde hair, short skirts, and boots. It's also much rougher country than up north. Mountains and desert. Freeze or fry, take your pick. NM has been hoping the texans would go home ever since they invaded us in the civil war. I think bush spent more time down in 'doso than anywhere else in NM.
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@neal
[Read the article: Obama in New Mexico: No Latino voter left behind]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I knew a guy named Joe Latino in Albuquerque. He was Italian.
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home ownership
[Read the article: Why the threat of systemic meltdown is real]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Why is everyone concerned that people keep ownership homes they couldn't afford in the first place? Foreclosure doesn't make houses disappear. Someone will live there. Both sides of the mortgage deal were dumb and greedy. Neither should get bailed out.
"Oh no, home values will plummet!" squawk the pundits. To me, that sounds like "Look! Affordable housing for all!"
The houses will be occupied by someone. Maybe renters. Maybe new owners. The prices will be based on something reasonable like the occupant's income.
Decreasing home values matter most to those wanting to use the house as an ATM. For people who just want a home, the roof is more important than the appraisal.