Our culture is undergoing a slow, decades-long paradigm shift as women gain equality with men, and it is only fair that men also have their say in the terms of this shift. After all, though women had less financial and political power and faced more egregious forms of discrimination, the rigid gender roles of previous generations also restricted the individual freedoms of men. While feminism has been successfully struggling to eliminate the gender restrictions faced by women over the past century, many of the restrictions faced by men persist to this day. Having gained such necessary and basic rights as the right to vote, to forego childbirth, to divorce, to not be beaten and raped by a spouse, and to have financial independence, we have reached point in western society where the restrictions faced by men are just as and in some cases more dire than those faced by women (nonconsensual male circumcision, custody courts perpetuating the perception of male as paycheck and female as childcare provider, and male rape in prison is accepted as inevitable and even humorous in mainstream cultural media).

So we find that feminism must address the needs of men and women simultaneously in order to achieve successful gender equality and allow individual freedoms and opportunities to truly thrive. I wouldn't suggest reverting to a previous, irrelevant cultural model, but some valuable insight can be gained by studying it; instead of rejecting it outright, maybe there are some positive elements that can be incorporated into the new social model that we are creating. I don't see anything wrong with many of the traits traditionally associated with masculinity; I just think it's a misnomer as much as feminism and femininity are misnomers, because "feminine" and "masculine" traits are found in all individuals to varying degrees, and because feminism by necessity is a struggle for equal freedoms and opportunities regardless of gender.

As far as the article's findings and some of the responses here, I find it hard to sympathize with men who hate feminism because they married domineering women, as much as I find it hard to relate to women who make jokes denigrating men because they married thankless patriarchs. It just sounds like a personal problem, to me. Is the fact that women have the ability to earn money for themselves really hurting these men's relationships? It seems to me that if it's important for a man to play house a certain way, he shouldn't marry a woman who wants to play house in an incompatible manner. It also seems to me that some of these men just need relationship counseling (wanting a wife to stay at home and then whining that she runs the household?), or maybe a huge knock to the head that makes them realize that women are just men with vaginas.. i.e. the desire for power and money among women in their workplace is just as legitimate as that of the men and shouldn't be regarded any differently (I'm reminded of this current cultural disparity everytime I read or hear anyone say that they won't vote for Hillary because she is "power-hungry," "too ambitious" or "only cares about winning" ... AS IF!!!)

Before we go blaming abortion

What about the genetic aspects of mental illness?

-- manos99

That's a really good point.. It leads me to suggest the hypothesis that a significant percentage of women seeking abortion may have already had mental health problems that led them into the situation that caused unwanted pregnancy. Many of the situations which might lead to an unwanted pregnancy - ignorance, drug and/or alcohol abuse, caving when pressured to "do it anyway," etc. - may correlate with the woman's depression or low self-esteem.

Insulting the author for using an informal writing style or for lacking scientific expertise is kind of unnecessary and stupid.

Holy shit, she is awesome.

It seems to me that the wives are victims of abuse, also; it was a wife who reported being abused. I don't understand why they are being sent back and separated from their children, in that case.

If your kid is curious about a sex act and asks you about it, and you think it's inappropriate to answer them, their curiosity is not going to just disappear, especially if they are age 10-12 asking these questions and puberty is right around the corner. I would be afraid that they might find out what sex is from someone else, in a manner much more inappropriate than if mom/dad/guardian just talked to them in the first place.

I've been boycotting for years (not on purpose, I'm just cheap as hell). All that happens is you just fall out of their economic model; you aren't a factor anymore. Maybe if more people fall out it will have an effect, true. But what we really need is a way to convince the powers-that-be that peace can be more profitable than war.

How are they supposed to press some device on their ankles?

O_o

Also, the gun idea is exactly what I was thinking. All rapists should be killed, the sooner the better.

I don't understand why some women still feel that they need to have a ring that cost a few months' salary. Let's not go into the fact that gold-mining rapes the environment and diamonds are neither rare nor an engagement tradition anywhere. How can a woman justify going into a marriage, into a financial team with someone and right from the start just flush a couple months of their salary down the toilet? There are plenty of nice pieces of jewelry or gifts out there than can symbolize love without costing much at all. Ladies, if the cost means more to you than the symbolism, you should let your partner know that from the start, so you can both be clear about what kind of relationship you're getting into.