You get a lot of people like that in the business world, loads of fun to be around, honest, bright and completely untrustworthy. They sometimes make it big, or end up in prison for accidentally defrauding someone.

And the thing is it is genuinely accidental - they live absolutely in the moment, with all the downsides that entails (EG: forgetting to pay creditors, entering deals which they can't afford, or which end up costing someone they had a deal with previously, that sort of thing).

The big thing here is: if you are going to stick with him, take over the finances. It can work, the trouble is that you are going to end up as the relationship's accountant. Consider now whether you really want that for the rest of your life.

Except with me it was my older brother, and the abuse took the form of getting the shit beat out of me at random. At one point he caught me in an alley (My solution at the time was to avoid being home alone with him) and strangled me to the point where I blacked out.

Another difference is, my father was abusive in the opposite direction - mainly for the same reason that I think he is just the most worthless person I have ever met - he has never held a paying job in all the years I have known him, yet he still goes on about black male politicians being "garden boys." His approach to parenting was more based on treating us like pampered pets than actual people.

So I have ended up with a sort of dual screwed-upedness, on the one hand I don't want to be my brother, without whom the world would be a better place, and on the other I don't want to end up like my father.

This translates into me being boxed up "well behaved" in real life, the guy who doesn't drink, fight or shout, and aside from online, acts as a peacemaker - kind of wierd what rage can do to you.

So don't take this as being advice from someone who has 100% sorted himself out of the same situation.

But I think my advice is still going to be worthwhile: Stop handling it. Outright stop handling it. You don't deserve it, you are under no obligation to handle it, so quite simply don't.

Rule 34 states that there is porn of it. Rule 36 states that if you can't find porn of it right now, it is currently in production.

These rules of the internet exist because ultimately people are not so easily pigeonholed into tits and ass.

Ultimately what men want depends on the individual man, and what women want depends on the individual woman, there is no magic bullet and frankly it would be creepy as hell if there was.

Basically you left her because she was inconvenient to your plans, now you want her to take you back in spite of you being inconvenient to hers.

See the problem?

Look, with the job you took a decision which you now regret, it was fair enough decision at the time but it clearly hurt her, and it was a decision which could not be unmade - to ask her to take you back now is blatantly unfair, so stop being a jerk and get out of her space.

If her feelings for you were not enough to stop you getting that job, don't expect your feelings for her to be enough to have her break up her new relationship.

Not only that - they were all men of faith. There is precisely 1 elected openly non-religious person in congress, Representative Pete Stark.

And Pete Stark? He is as blunt as a sledgehammer, but he was against the war from the get-go, and saw where it was going to land the economy.

Ultimately Hitchens recanted his position on torture, saying that he was wrong.

Richard Dawkins never called Sunday School teachers child molesters, he stated that calling children "Christian", "Atheist" or otherwise identifying them with a given group is abusive when they are too young to know what they are.

He also took a strong stance against the US' "Hell Houses" which are designed specifically to traumatise children into never straying from the flock.

I don't know, Yminale, why don't "new atheists" hold people's feet to the fire for positions they don't actually hold?