Dick - do you really think the connection to food for women is similar to the connection to sex for men? That is just idiotic.

There are a lot of slobby fat men out there who just don't feel as judged by women and society and have no interest in dieting or eating well - and frankly have no more will power than women when it comes to dieting.

On the whole, women are less obese in this country than men.

I do agree with you that men have much lower standards when it comes to getting sex. You understand that this is not a selling point, right?

I hope you understand that most women want and enjoy sex, but that desire is severly dampened when they perceive (1) their mate is critical of their body and (2) they feel like sex is a service they provide.

Nothing can kill the desire for hot monkey love than feeling like you are just the body available. Nothing personal.

For your wife's sake - get a divorce. Bet she loses weight then! Sometimes people lose an unhealthy relationship with food when they get rid of the toxins in their life.

Obviously, we'd all be happy as a clown if we follow Dr Laura's example:

Get married

Get tubes tied

Get divorced.

Have an affair with the boss.

Allow Boss to point the camera up our snatch and have total control of photos

Find a nice Jewist guy separated from his wife but not divorced.

Get sexually involved with said guy, convert to his religion but in a selective way, and get married as soon as the divorce is in effect

Get tubes untied and work very hard to get some of our dna in to the gene pool.

Oh - and bring kid to work and have other employees watch him while you work.

I am sure most women would love to be able to bring their kids to work and have daycare provided.

Is that what Dr Cretin is yattering about now?

(has Fractal showed up yet to defend Dr Laura?)

Appreciating your husband, making him feel needed etc. will get YOU WHAT YOU WANT.

That crap is the same thing that keeps sprouting up, no matter the reality.

Yes - encouragement and support will help BOTH people in a relationship. But unless both are senstive to each other, one piling on the praise and support may just lead to more of the same behaviour if the praised one is oblivious or just takes for granted the one doing the praising.

However, I do believe one thing the good Dr advocates is using sex as a tool. Making sure the man is well serviced will get you that new washer or jewelry or behaviour. Again - if the man is not sensitive or just takes for granted what his spouse does, praise or "services" will NOT get you what you want unless you are prepared to use it as a tool and withhold it.

Not a relationship I would want to be involved in.

That IS what the good doctor is advocation.

She is like Limbaugh and Coulter. Speaking of which, has anyone ever seen them together? Always just one at a time . . . hmmmm . . .

@cherylsass123

I agree and get most of your post. But people of all classes work for all kinds of reasons. Men and women too. It is largely for money - especially those of us working at lower paid less interesting jobs. I mean - woud you work at Walmart putting clothes back on hangers if you had a lot of choices?

And yes - lots of overt superficial materialism out there. I've run in to it myself as I am snottily dismissed because I don't live in the same sort of house or neighbourhood as my professional peers.

However lots of professional women raising families with professional men - not everyone is that materialistic.

And as far as women should choose to raise their children and let the husband earn the big bucks - I give you Silda Spitzer. She gave up her high powered carreer to support her husbands and raise her 2 children. He in turn publicly humiliated her by draggin her out on stage when he publically apologized to his "public"

And our dear Dr Laura was interviewed about this and was asked if the wife is to blame when the husband cheats. This was specific to Silda and her Cheatin' Hubby:

VIEIRA: Are you saying women should feel guilty, like they somehow drove the man to cheat?

SCHLESSINGER: You know what, the cheating was his decision to repair what's damaged, and to feed himself where he's starving. But, yes, I hold women accountable for tossing out perfectly good men by not treating them with the love and kindness and respect and attention they need.

And by all accounts, Eliot was starving for a little anal action. He was hungry for a 22 year old body.

Dr Laura may have have some truth in what she says - like that broke clock. But it is lost for me due to the vitriole she lobs down at women specifically - she seems to be truely self hating - and the crap she spews about care and feeding of husbands and how women should lead their lives once they give birth.

I believe that in a relationship you encourage and praise and support each other. Neither male nor female has a more fragile ego that needs doormating from the other.

I always thought Helen Gurley Brown and Cosmo were some how on par with Hugh Hefner and Playboy. But I maybe Maxim too? The whole selling and packaging what a "real" man is and how a "real" woman should act.

In some ways Hef and Helen are tremendously sad creatures, victims of the images they've been selling their readers all these years. They bought their own poison.

Someday I will be an old woman, I'd just rather be a Maude (of Harold and . . ) rather than a HGB.