Hey LW, I totally understand your resentments - just not your desire to get implants given that you recognise getting implants installed will just be feeding into the system that makes women like you and I feel inadequate.

Let me ask you to think about this. If you think your boyfriend is being honest about liking you the way they are, then you might find the relationship fail when you get the implants. It WILL change some of the dynamics and relationship failure is one possibility.

The other is that your boyfriend will find that he is REALLY in to the new boobs. How will you feel then? Will it bring you joy that he likes the fake you better than the real you, thus affirming your resentments that men prefer big boobs, fake or not, to small?

Me? I would dispise my significant other if he seemed to like what is fake and stereotypical more than the real. And dispise myself for falling in step and barbifying myself.

And at a great expense and discomfort at that.

The recovery is long if you go under the muscle which is the current fad. I don't know if you like to do things, but you have to give up a lot of activities for weeks to months. I run - I would have to give that up for several months to allow my body to heal enough to enjoy sports without harming the implant placement.

Is that something you are prepared for?

You did get a consultation - that is good. Find out everything - get all the prep work and estimates of final effect and TOTAL costs.

If I was to recommend anything to you, I would say, save the money up.

And while doing that - try stuffing your bras to get you to the size you want to be. Try on your clothes and new clothes to see what you look like. Try putting 1/2 to a cup of rice in a baggie and plop it in your bra. I did that once and hated the look! Make me look fruppy and matronly and not the slim athletic woman I am used to seeing.

And when you get ALL the money together, think of what all you could do with it instead. The first operation will cost about 5K plus or minus. You could go climb Kilimanjaro for that. Or get a totally fantastic wardrobe that fits your current body. Or . . . lots of therapy to help you love your self.

If none of those things appeal to you more than having larger breasts and having to deal with your (justifiable) resentment at the way we are being conditioned to regarded fake breasts as better than normal small breasts - then go for it.

I would want to know.

If my reality was so warped that I believed my husband was a true friend and respectful loving husband, I would want to know that I was wrong so that I would not live in a mirage. I would not want the pain that will come with that knowledge, but I'd rather the pain than the fantasy land impressions of what my marriage was. Chances are, the wife has an idea that the LW is less than a faithful partner anyhow. It is very hard to live in a limbo state when it comes to truth.

And if I was the wife, I would then leave this sucker.

Having had to deal with infidelity in the past - I have a zero tolerance for it now. I've also struggled to arrive at forgiveness. I needed to make that choice myself - having someone else decide what my reality was going to be - nope.

There are other ways to relieve oneself sexually - doesn't always have to involve another person's orifaces.

I would want to know. I would want to make the decision to stay or go, to forgive or not.

Don't want to hurt the person you love and expect to tend to you in old age? Then don't do anything that will hurt that person, don't do anything that requires living a direct lie or lie of ommission. Do not lie.

On the other hand, if the LW wants the convenience of his marriage and wife, then just keep the secret and suck up big time and be the perfect husband and friend and never ever do anything that he knows would hurt his wife should she find out. Maybe he will be lucky and his secret will never surface.

If the LW tells his wife, for what ever reason, it will destroy his marriage in its present form. Whether or not it could be saved, that would be up to the two of them.

I think there are two types of people here. Those who don't want to know the truth if will hurt. And those who want to know the truth.

Other than degree, what is the difference between removing the inner labia in Sudan, and the "new" plastic surgery procedure in the west where the inner labia are trimmed off?

Both practices are to make the female more "attractive" to the male.

I guess the biggest difference is that in the west it appears to be volentary.

I wonder if Mrs Spitzer could sue the hooker for profiting off of her criminal behaviour?

Seems a shame someone like this should profit off the destruction of their actions.

But then I agree with the other poster. It seems all a female has to do to get famous is have fake body parts installed, get photographed pantiless and shaved, have a sex tape released on the Internet, or be a friend of Paris Hilton.

I cringe for my gender. So many talented women out there but if they aren't (in)famous in a sexual context, forget about it.

Obviously, the main thing she didn't provide to her husband was a 22 year old body.

Shame on her for not dying young!