The anger comes from never having the oportunity to confront her husband with his cheating. Had he been alive, something could have been done. What that was, well, it differs person to person.

Now she can never have it out. And she is expected to be greiving and feels she can not express her anger at having been fooled and believing in someone who was unworthy of the trust.

I do not buy the "we are all imperfect" crap. Yes - we are. But many many people are able to conduct themselves honourable to those they vow to honour.

Why is it that women are always told to forgive the philandering husband because he is "just a man"? Any man who makes that comment is just asking to be taken to the cleaner by some gold digging woman - who is "just a woman".

The letter writer has a very good reason for being angry. She needs to find a safe place to express this. Counselling is such a place. It is going to be very confusing for her for a while until she can separate her emotions out. The grieving for a loved one and the anger at being betrayed by that loved one.

Some of my best Christmas's have been when I was a child and our small family was 2000 miles from the extended family. I remember time. Time for baking good things and listening to Christmas carols. Time for playing board games with my siblings. Time for playing out doors. Time for reading. Time for decorating the tree and wrapping gifts. Well, you get the theme - time and not a lot of other family. It was serene - I remember it feeling the same way big fluffy snowflakes falling at night look like.

My mother on the other hand, remembers those Christmas' as being very lonely with no extended family and multiple feasts. No excitement. No people.

As an adult and an increasingly large extended family growing about me, I experience Christmas as a lot of pressure to supply to to a lot of people and I am only one. I work. I have a complicated life. I HAVE NO TIME!

The best Christmas I could wish for is to go to bed at my home, and wake up there. And have the serenity and quiet and relaxation. I could have the luxury of not having to drive any where just to sit in a noisy people filled room and figure out when it will be polite to leave. I want quiet and time. I would love to be in PJ's and with a cup of hot coffee laced with Rum Nog, call up all those I love and wish them a Merry Christmas.

But that would not make my mother and the extended group happy. We all have to be together and endure the noise of 20 people in a small hot house.

For Tradition.

When are we old enough to determine the Tradition we want to have?

Until I figure that out - I wait for Blessed Boxing Day!

Why does Jamie Lynn Spears matter one way or another?

The whole family is trash and the mother especially for pimping her kids out.

But why does this one 16 year old, pregnant or not, matter so much that it makes the news?

I am bewhildered. Who really cares about the story - or her?

Most women I see refered to as a MILF are young 20 somethings with a child.

I have an aquaintance who not only refers to herself (proudly) as a MILF, but will use the child in certain circumstances to further her dating. (Look at me! Sexy! Plucky Single Mom! But Sexy! Look at me!)

The stalker sounds a whole lot like the woman I know.