This is just what Hillary wants. She and her campaign operatives did everything they could to marginalize, trash and otherwise hurt Obama during the campaign for the nomination, AND IT HASN'T STOPPED.

Hillary hopes to: 1) still have a chance at the nomination at the Democratic convention; or 2) if she can't get the nomination, she hopes Obama will LOSE in the November election. If he loses, she can run in 2012.

I didn't trust Hillary during the nomination process. I don't trust Hillary now. I won't trust her in the future. As usual, she's up to something. She's being deliberately ambiguous, still hoping against hope that Obama will screw up, AND/OR that McCain will succeed in pulling Obama down between now and the convention, AND/OR that she and her cronies will be able to dig up (or INVENT) some dirt on Obama to spread around. She still wants POWER, and she always will want it.

RUN THIS DIRTY POLITICIAN, AND HER CRAZY HUSBAND, OUT OF WASHINGTON ONCE AND FOR ALL. They both belong on a chicken farm in Arkansas.

Decisions HAVE been made. Since she was about 6 years old, Hillary has wanted to have power and rule the world. The fact that Obama legitimately won the nomination doesn't stop her. Take my word for it -- this lying sociopath will stop at nothing to be president. She's being deliberately ambiguous to leave herself an opening at the convention. If she and her campaign cronies can succeed in getting her 50-something, uneducated female base upset that she isn't the nominee, and convince them that "somehow" this is unfair, bedlam could insue at the convention, and THAT'S JUST WHAT HILLARY WANTS.

CARY - you sound like you're WAY over analyzing and "psychologizing" this man. And worse, YOU'RE PROBABLY COMPLETELY WRONG about him, but we'll never know for sure because you are speculating way out in the blue yonder without sufficient evidence for what you say.

Get off your Freudian kick and give the guy some acknowledgment, understanding and practical advise !!

Now, let's look at the facts... he's hung up on a woman he loved but cheated on. He admits that he doesn't really want to get over her. They are still in touch, albeit only occasionally. These are the FACTS, Cary.

My advise to this man... accept your predicament. You won't get over this woman just by willing it. All the reasons you gave for loving her sound valid, and I believe there is meaning and validity for you in this experience, and that THAT is why you continue to have the feelings you do.

Don't try to 'get over' this woman. Your ability to "move on" will come in time... maybe when the lessons of this experience have had enough time to sink into your psyche. Make friends with other women and allow yourself to pursue the same traits in women that you love so much in "N".

Give yourself time. Accept your feelings. Let yourself cry if need be. Write in a journal perhaps.

Remember, you're OK. Your deep feelings for "N" show that you are capable of loving, and that's a great thing.

And don't let jerks like Cary pathologize you !!!