This is a very interesting article by TCF. It doesn't seem that she has done anything scandalous... just had a few hookups on the way to what is probably the first of a few long term relationships... which is the usual trajectory for a young, semi-attractive to attractive woman in the big city.

One of the things TCF fails to understand is that casual sex is easy for women ~ once they get past the labelling (which any self interested man would stay away from)... Women and Gay People - are offered sex all the time!

As a Straight SBM, I have engaged in a lot of casual sex... some would say I have intimacy issues but my entire view has been shaped by the fact - at least for a while in their youth- women hold the chips in the heterosexual mating game.

And as another commenter mentioned, the sexual power imbalance does end up leaving many men, angry frustrated and misogynistic - sometimes you can even throw homophobic anger

into that mix...

Ask any straight guy and he will tell you - you're always paying for it ... one way or another, and for some guys - that takes a toll.

With all that said, I do think everyone needs to go through a phase of casual relationships... however the hypocritical/mysoginist/jealous barstard in me would rather not hear about it when its time to settle down in a serious relationship....

And the worst thing is - I know this is not the healthiest attitude to have... but I am not sure that I know how to change it, because the only experience I know is one where I am always working for sex as a goal... not one where it happens, out of the blue.

This is all I will say.

The day that the skinny, smart, sensitive guy is rewarded with sex and/or a physically attractive mate for repudiating guyish behavior – and not the enlightened female salon readers of the world (who to be perfectly honest, do not register on a 15 year olds consciousness as sexual icons) but by the hot cheerleader/girl next door/model type, all of this behavior and competition will stop.

Till then we will (and I say this as a career motivated, ex nerd, jock look alike new Yorker, straight man) do battle.

The losers get the fat wife and are unable to pay for private school or health insurance and might still get divorced and cheated on. Winners get the trophy wife and a chance at determining their own future.

I want to be a winner and it is as simple as that.

I have got to second all these tips below. The best way to win the dating game is to let women think they've won. Size up your quarry - radical feminist, working gal, college gal, divorcee and play to that.

Get yours and move on.

Being single is freedom - don't let women try to tell you you don't have a right to get laid, just figure out what it is and do it. You're stupid if you let your pride get in the way...

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Tips for men

Wear a nice suit.

Act like you have money and confidence.

Listen and pay attention.

Share feelings and personal things about you that create intimacy and warm fuzzies.

Don't go for the breasts or the crotch, go for the back of the neck and upper shoulders - that triggers the mating response much more subtly than the "naughty bits". Be patient, et her lead. If that doesn't work, try the obvious and when she says no, back off and change the subject, then she will change the subject back to what you want.

After you get laid, ask yourself if it was worth it.

Forget about love and relationships - most available women are either not into that anymore or not suitable. I am sure that it is hard for the other side.

People have been trained to be real assholes to each other by the msm so don't expect things to get better.

Being single is being free. Something worth keeping

And I hate to break it to you...but they will sleep together. The only question is whether he has the guts to admit or if he decides to play both ends against the middle and tell you that "nothing happened".

This guy is a cheat, and he thinks you're either stupid or a doormat. You are the older woman who moved in with him, so in his mind he has all the power.... he can get young divorcees and older chicas too...

Move out. End it. Move on.

I realize I am not....

Lady, i hope you don't get caught....

And this is why fellas,a) you need to marry someone with experience.... and b) you can't trust women.....

So go on. Have your affair. Like a lot of these so-called good women on here, you might not get caught - and you might even be your own personal erica jong.

I hope to GOD your hubby is fucking around on you.

The tri-delts on my campus were hot as hell. All very athletic, a lot of blondes, a lot of chicas who dated athletes. This is all very well and good... and I am sure it will help some people. However I want to date attractive women, I will not feel bad for wanting to do that.... it's not my fault if you're fat.

I used to be skinny and bulked up in the gym - if i can do it, anyone can.