My dear friend, in reality, you are no different than the rest of us. You just failed to see the outcome of your actions. Every single one of us has these "demons", these are NOT unique to you, and you certainly don't need to sit with a shrink for hours on end trying to figure out where they came from and how to tame them. Unless, of course, you are suffering from some other kind of mental illness which renders you not-at-fault (there are few of those).

Your course of action is going to be along some kind of lines as a path to forgiveness, mostly for the sake of your children. Unfortunately, they're going to be the ones that need the most patching for the whole "broken trust" issue. You know how that always screws the kids up and lands them in some kind of mid-20's therapy. Take all of that supposed hurt you feel and energize it towards a goal of practicing acts that regain trust. Leave your poor spouse alone, and deal with the damage that has been done.

I don't think you are beyond forgiveness, although you have hurt your family immensely, you are still a human being that deserves to be treated like one. You have a new cross to bear, one that will haunt you for many years to come.

I almost crapped when my husband and I signed on the dotted line 2 weeks ago for our 2006 Chevy Tahoe. A honking chunk of steel with average gas mileage, a big ass, and a TV to boot. Our justifications were many - he is a traveling salesman who needs to drag chemicals with him everywhere - in ALL sorts of bad weather. And... he's six feet seven... so he fits comfortably in that carbon-sucking machine.

Maybe a tad guilty, but I don't define our life by this vehicle for God's sake. The tree huggers need to lighten up. I just recycled my mac and cheese box yesterday. Let the penance begin.

I hope you enjoy your new ride.

This is what happened to my husband - a woman seduced him, he had no strengh to say "no" and he loved the attention, and I found out. And I'm devastated. Are you up for the consequences of your partner finding out, just so you can have your ego stroked? If you don't want to be with oyur partner - TELL THEM.

I can see why the guy on the train has been avoiding you - "Wow, nothing sexier than a woman two-timing her lover at home - blatantly". How much unsexier can that be. Leave the poor guy alone, let him find someone who is single, you sound like you have far worse issues than this flirtation. Take it from the person 'at hom' - it hurts like HELL to find out the person you love and trusted fell for someone else.

I take tramadol daily for a lower back condition I've had for a couple of years now. I have a history of depression/anxiety, and to my surprise, the Tramadol has acted as an anti-depressant. Although my back pain has now cleared up, I refuse to stop taking my daily Tramadol because of the mood-lifting properties. I never take more than 3/day, but I know for a fact I'm hooked. When I try to stop taking them or wean, the withdrawals are unbearable. My mother pesters me about this all the time, and I ignore her questions now and change the subject. My husband used to pester me, but he absolutely doesn't want me to go back to the way I was "before", so he ignores it. My quality of life has increased tenfold, and I'd rather be a happy addict than go back to my depressed state. Be cautioned - coming off these in the future (if your pain becomes manageable) may be a living hell for you.

Over the holidays, I would log on to my Hotmail account, only to realize my husband's username kept coming up - an account he supposedly didn't use anymore. My suspicions got the best of me and I checked his email at work the following week. What I so blatantly found were his love letters back and forth to another woman. Of course, I confronted him and we've had months of rebuilding our marriage. I found out things I wish I didn't know, but because of it, our marriage is stronger than ever before.

I understand people's anger at the invasion of privacy, but after what I found, I have no qualms about it.

It's natural not to miss the other spouse when away. I don't miss my husband when he is gone on his business trips, in fact, I usually welcome it. I'm introverted and love my alone time. It's possible she feels a temporary sense of freedom.