Letters to the Editor

• Evo-psychs! Evo-psychs! Where are YOOOUUUUU?

  [Read the article: How can I comfort my boyfriend about losing his hair?]
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  Because if there is ANY sort of article about female attractiveness, whether it is weight or age or breasts or facial beauty -- even BLONDNESS -- there is an avalanche of posts siting "Evolutionary Psychology" as for why males choose females based solely on physical characteristics, which the males have learned (from over 100 millions years of experience) lead straight to fertility and "replication" (to quote the pick up artist Mystery).

  But somehow when the shoe is on the other foot, when we have that rare occasion when we speak about MALE PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS, the evo-psychs have gone curiously silent. Instead, we are treated to long sobfests about how women should be kind, patient, accepting, tolerant and compassionate to balding boyfriends. After all, FOR MEN ONLY, it is not looks that matter but inner character and personality. Oh, and let's not forget that a big way to "make it up" to the balding man is lots and lots of hot monkey sex, until he forgets about his "shortcomings".

  If evo-psychs "just know" that men are selecting female partners (and have for all eternity) based on certain very specific physical characteristics (like a waist ratio of 0.7, calculated by cavemen millennia before the invention of mathematics), then WHY AREN'T women doing exactly the same selection of males that they INSTINCTIVELY KNOW are more virile, more successful, more high earning, more fertile, better fathers, etc. based on the logical deduction that "HAIR GOOD, BALD BAD"?

  Isn't it just as likely that ALL human beings simply like to look at pretty things, and youth and nice hair are very pretty. Very very pretty. (We also like pretty dogs and pretty horses and pretty paintings and pretty Italian sports cars.) But prettiness doesn't translate into GOOD...a man with lots and lots of thick silky hair is not necessarily a good hunter or a virile lover or an exceptionally fertile father and somehow civilized human beings can comprehend that hair is just hair and nothing else (besides pretty).

  But let a woman have bad skin, a big nose, a wide waistline, saggy boobs, or be a couple years south of 17 and it's suddenly a biological tragedy of epic proportions, that every man is hardwired by evolution to run away from!

  Let's be honest and let's be fair: the outside of the book has very little, often nothing, to do with the inside of the book. Physical beauty is very fleeting. No one, especially not men, wants to be judged by superficial physical standards, and have their soul, their inner character and their personality spat upon.

  Judge not, lest you be judged. Good advice.

  Permalink Friday, August 10, 2007 07:47 AM