anyone who cares more about what a child's gender will be than who the child will be as a person should not be a parent. ridiculous.

masturbating is relaxing and probably good for one's health. it's natural stress relief - no side effects. masturbating makes people happy. women are conditioned to feel more shame about masturbation than men and women deserve studies that support lifting that stigma.

Are you kidding me? In my mind Seventeen is doing a public service. i feel bad for any teenager who goes out with what she or he thinks is a boy or girl and it turns out otherwise. People who want to change in this way have an obligation to be completely honest. When a straight man goes out with a woman, it makes a world of difference if she has a prostate in there, fake tits or not. When a straight woman goes out with a man, it would be weird to find out he actually had a uterus in there. Hello People!!!!! It's not just about the surface!

she looks beautiful. don't hate.

i hope his career dies. what an animal.

he should have added that blacks should study harder for their firefighter exams. can you imagine if a white person or sarah palin said these things? she would be castigated!

who makes fun of little people? this is a non-story. why is salon full of crap like this? false controversies. give me a break!

I don't really care about whether benjamin is fat or not, it has no impact on my life and i do not look to the govt for any health advice. That being said, Look at the people in the concentration camps- polycystic ovary syndrome, metabolic syndrome, thyroid problems, whatever, THEY WERE ALL SKINNY. Enough with the excuses, being fat is simply a matter of stuffing too much food in your face and not exercising enough. Some people need to quit being so delusional.

Being a fan of all things mammary I enjoyed this story. Like others have commented, I did want to hear more. I think it's completely hypocritical for individuals to be ok with semen swallowing and un-ok with breast milk swallowing. Further, I find this anti breast milk position mystifying, baffling, strange, bizarre, prudish, uptight, unimaginative, spirit-dampening, soul eroding, sad and bleak.

You made me laugh today Cary- you should go for humor in your responses more often!

Just chiming in to say I've never done this and don't know of any man who has done this. Is your bf very young (like 19?) and naive and paranoid? Inexcusable in an older dude, definitely, and indicative of mental problems.

i think Michelle Obama should do whatever she wants with her hair; it doesn't change the fact that she resembles Patrick Ewing. It's bullshit for black women to whine about what they are CHOOSING to do with their hair. There is no law that says you have to have straight hair or care what other people think of your hair. To say women can't get a job because of their hair is belied by all the cashiers with terrible hairdos at the stores here in nyc. I see ugly people with jobs all of the time. I also work with black women who have ugly hair and ugly bodies. They get paid the same as me.

I think Erin Kaplan is a subnormally retarded nitwit. I read her drivel solely for the entertainment of the comment section, which invariably contains some of the stupidest stuff I've ever read.

IGNORE her when she goes into a rage. leave the house. do not engage with her when she is very angry. angry people are not rational and explain this to her and that therefore you will only speak to her if she is ready to be a calm adult. there is a nytimes modern love column that talks about pavlovian training of significant others by ignoring what you do not like and rewarding what you do like. i have issues with this approach normally but in the case of violent raving i think this is warranted and your only hope for changing her behavior. it also does work with loved ones who are trying to verbally abuse you.

when you talk like calm adults acknowledge her difficulties and sympathize about her shitty commutes. i personally abhor shitty commutes more than many things.

pamper her once in a while. buy her dinner. coo sweet nothings in her ear. etc.

Trust me, this has been a problem for me, and this is what i've found works- it will also feel surprisingly good to let out some of that aggression that's built up from taking the slings and arrows of others all this time.

Lady, I've actually been in the same situation as you in terms of being around people who care about me very much yet cruelly criticize me in front of others. What I've found works is just dishing it out right back to them. Give them a taste of their own medicine. Even if you find it rude or distasteful, this is the only way some people learn empathy/how to act civilized etc. So if your sister says something to you, you might want to tell her her breath smells, in front of others of course, and see if she has any complaints. If so, you can point out that you don't like that treatment either.

This reminds me of the virulent unfair criticism of sarah palin's birth-related choices on this very website.

Nothing like fomenting race hatred in the morning, Benfer, you total unwitting pawn of the capitalist system!