I sympathize with the letter writer's desire to forge close personal relationships with students, but as a former grad student (got my PhD in 1995 in chemistry), I would caution her be extremely careful with this student. Particularly with the religion/faith stuff--remember, the Accuracy in Academia folks are back in the news again, trying to ferret out "godless/atheist/pagan/feminist/etc" academics, to further their arguments that universities are nothing more than bastions of liberal, American-hating commies. yeah, it sucks to have to think this way, but unfortunately, just like herpes, these guys never really go away. (Come to think of it, both herpes and Accuracy in Academia surfaced in the 1980s...hmm.)

Anyway, maybe it's just the paranoia talking, but I'd avoid any discussion of one's personal religious, political, or ethical views. It may be that this young student is really having a crisis and the LW is the only person to whom he can turn, not being a member of his inner circle. Of course, he may have targeted her as a convert, or heck, even as a potential victim to expose and ruin professionally by posting to the A in A site about your views--these folks really want to shut down open discussion, tape your lectures, etc. And they WILL hound a professor to death. With a dearth of tenure-track positions to begin with, this isn't how you want to start a career.

Counsel him objectively to consider his background, his current views, what HE wants out of his university experience, etc. Ultimately, as an adult, he is the one who has to make this decision. And Cary's right--get some guidance from your department (or the School of Arts or whatever level is above this)

Final bit of advice: why give students your email/phone number/IM? They can approach you during or after class, during office hours, etc. The LW needs to set limits on her and her boyfriend's personal time. If she does meet this kid, do it in a public place like a library or common study area--NOT a coffee shop, NOT her office after hours. And for God's sake, DON'T suggest he needs professional mental health services--you're talking lawsuit (after all, this is the English department, not the Psych department; and even then, it would be inappropriate to volunteer that opinion).

Loved that! I have a Great Dane and a German Shepherd myself, and they act just like the ones in this video. The Dane hangs around looking slightly stupid and confused, and hungry (always hungry), and the Shepherd trots through "on patrol" a couple of times. And, yes, the Aussie in the video is better at putting dirty dishes in the sink than my hubby and kids are.

But, wow, the dog food bill must be substantial!