Letters to the Editor
Afro Goddess
Published Letters: 178 Editor's Choice: 22
-
Responding to "Emotional...my ass..."
[Read the article: My wife was having an emotional affair for years behind my back]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]DAP PLAYA!!!!
You either wrote the Playa's Handbook, read the book, or have the book on tape 'cause that's EXACTLY how its done.
Your post deserves a red star!
'Cause the truth is, if your spouse has a flashlight in your eye like that, they just want a good enough excuse to let you off the hook.
Its when they stop asking questions that you know you're in trouble. A cheater prefers a long night of arguing to one of silence. That means that the spouse is thinking and that's never good. Keep 'em angry, crazy, and not thinking straight. If you do it right, by the early morn you two have fought, cried, had sex, and are sound asleep.
LW's wife has the Playa's Handbook in her back pocket and is listening to the mp3 version from the ear bud in her ear.
I have no respect for the LW. He only wrote in to get sympathy and a cosign. He needs to drink a V8, build a bridge, and get over it.
-
An emotional affair...
[Read the article: My wife was having an emotional affair for years behind my back]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Calling it an "emotional affair" is so pathetic. Its the last vestige of a cockold unwilling to face the realities of his life, his wife, and her infidelity. Calling it emotional is a more substantial way of saying phone sex, but less real than blatant cheating.
After all if her emotions were really involved with any one of you, she wouldn't be doing it in the first place.
-
I was so glad to read your letter LW b/c I know I'm not alone...
[Read the article: Is atheism dead?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Every couple of months I'm where you are LW. I become concerned about my place in the universe and everyone and everything I hold dear.
Technically I'm agnostic. I believe there's a God, I'm just not willing to attribute a personality or intentions to it.
It’s a hard place to be. I think that many humans use religion as a balm against the fears and pains of life. I think religion is more about us being reflexive and egotistical than really trying to know God. It’s so clear that we aren't in control and so we have to believe that there's a method to the madness of this world, that someone is on our side, and that things will get better.
It’s hard not to have that safety net. Those of us who never drank the kool-aid or took a sip and poured out the rest have to live a life of questions. I'd love a definitive answer that I can believe. I'd love to walk around going "This is the way, the only way" and really believe that.
I used to be slightly miffed at God. I wanted God to reach down, and whisper in my ear "I'm here and this is the path to knowing me." Not even because I want anything from God. But just to know.
But honestly, who am I to get asides from God? I don't believe that looking for God's signs type stuff. It’s God! It should know all languages and be able to break it down to me in Midwest slang, if need be.
But let's be real, I have not dedicated my own life and being to going in search of God. I'm not living in thigh deep various spiritual texts. I'm not climbing mountains, chanting in monasteries, snake handling, or doing anything beyond saying "Well Christianity ain't it for me!” I'm too busy catching Top Chef, trying to meet a decent man, and writing this long @ss post.
I'm in my early 30s. I have friends who, in our 20s, were just as agnostic as I am. But like clockwork, they became more Christian. It’s like they were rouge robots and someone hit their default switch. I've had to endure their religious fervor, their Christian speak, feeling left out, and trying to be saved. I know that on a daily basis I'm being prayed for.
But I can't and won't lie. I think it’s wrong to be any religion by default, just because it’s easy or popular or you were raised that way. Its sacrilege to claim a spirituality that isn't in your heart.
So those of us strong enough not to lie are somehow penalized. We have no one and no way to cosign that this is the right path. Like religious folk, other atheists can not definitively prove or disprove not just the existence of God, but also its motivations and intentions.
I think atheism is hardcore. Like extreme spirituality (or anti-spirituality). Like going "There's no cause and effect." You need a helmet, heart pads, and a bullet proof vest for your soul. It’s all or nothing. Either there's a God (in which case, "What's up God? Speak to me!") or it’s all gasses and big bang.
I, on the other hand, believe in something that mirrors the earth and the animals on it. We beget from something else. Who created God is a whole other question that I try to keep from haunting me.
But LW, if you seriously go looking for God, send me a postcard on your journey. And when you find it, send me an email with mapquest directions so I can meet up with the two of you to share a drink, a laugh, and a clue. 'Cause I'd love to know God' favorite color, reality show, and its most embarrassing moment.
-
Earth as God...
[Read the article: Is atheism dead?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]BTW, has anyone ever wondered if the Earth is God and we are just the hairs on its body? Basically we're way more complex plants.
Something to think about.