Letters to the Editor
Afro Goddess
Published Letters: 179 Editor's Choice: 22
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I hate hearing from "Drunk-Aggressives" who bag on passive-aggressives...
[Read the article: I hit my sister in the head with my purse when I drink]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]So, you think you're better than your husband, your family, and your life? What proof do you have when you're depending on your husband to survive and you can't even get a job to support yourself?
The short answer: Power comes with proof! McDonald's is always hiring.
The long answer: If you want to be on your own, you can be. You're 28, not 18. The question is, will you get off your @ss and roll with the homez. 'Cause until you can get a job and actively stand on your own two feet, then you get to hear other people's mouths in your business.
You don't have to wait for the job of your dreams to get out. There are women with less education and more children than you have who are making "May I take your order?" work for them. Have you scraped the bottom of the barrel looking for work?
And BTW, you are too old for that drunk-aggression mess! That's some bratty, college hoe behavior and you need to grow up! You can't look down on everyone in your circle but be such a punk @ss that you have to get drunk to talk trash. You say that you're an artist, but I don't read you creating anything more than dependency. And now you're trying to add liquor to the equation?! Alcholism does not equal strength or independence. It just makes you look like more of a f&ckup.
The case could be made that you are projecting onto others your resentment for self because you can't be honest enough to admit that while you dislike living down to others' expectations you are even more afraid of being a self-sufficient adult.
I can totally empathize with anyone who is unhappy, feels stuck, and who lacks control over their life. The reason I don't sympathize with you is because you seem to blame everyone in your world for your unhappiness while being condescending about it.
What you need to do: 1. Put the dranks down. 2. Go do that computer employment test at Target or Walmart.
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You're suffering from "101"
[Read the article: My boyfriend has an abysmal environmental conscience]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]LW, don't allow your relationship to end because you are suffering from a social disorder known as "101" (as in the first course in a field of study).
"101" is when a person learns new information, experiences a new way of living, and is so seduced by the change in lifestyle and philosophy that they have a compulsion to not only share that newness with others, but to make them believe as you do.
I personally think that "101" stems from a person's desire to reinforce what they newly believe by insisting that other's accept and validate their belief system.
Examples include:
"Afrocentric 101", when a Black person first takes an African Studies course and suddenly hates Whitey until they take the second course and rationality calms their @sses down;
"Religion 101", when someone finds religion and insists that every other form of spirituality pales in comparison; and
"Environmentalism 101", when a person wants to control and start drama with a perfectly good boyfriend because he refuses to change his life to match his partner's new green sensibilities.
It can take weeks, months, and even years for suffers of "101" to put life in perspective. Yes, with increased knowledge comes increased responsibility, but its important to remember that your social awakening is YOURS, not his. You need to make changes to your life, but he shouldn't do what he doesn't believe in strongly.
If you are a good Green Witness, he might come to accept some of your green beliefs as his own after seeing how well it affects your life (or maybe he won't). Either way your role is not to judge him, control him, or otherwise enforce your choices on his life. It will only breed resentment and lead to the demise of your relationship.
And years from now, with some guy who, while very Green, is otherwise incompatible with you, you'll miss this boyfriend and realize that being overbearing hurt you more than it ever hurt him...or the environment.
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Melew1, Chick wants to dump her man for being Clark Kent instead of Superman
[Read the article: My boyfriend has an abysmal environmental conscience]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Sometimes women like to b*tch about their man and his habits, and come off looking right to their wrong.
I don't think LW is doing all of that, but I get the vibe for the letter that she can't get off the pot over the larger issue which is her man not being like her, and her not being able to control him.
Not everyone has the sensibility to be green. But just because Lois the LW can't make her man Superman (save the planet), he's an @sshole. After all, shouldn't we all want to save the planet?
In which case, leave him! But then she's going to come off talking about love and devotion and how he has his good points.
Chick is simply indecisive, and I think that she wants us to cosign her inability to either stick with Clark Kent or roll with the homez.
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It might have been all about you, LW...but not really...
[Read the article: My fiancé suddenly joined the Marines]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]LW, the hardcore truth is that
1. Your man needs professional mental help and that means you telling his parents and talking to professionals who might be able to guide you all towards guiding him to therapy.
2. IT'S SO BEYOND NOT ABOUT YOU OR YOUR RELATIONSHIP OR THE KIDS YOU MAY HAVE IN THE FUTURE. I had to put that in bold and caps for you because while I don't think you're completely egotistical, you're letting your mourning process (yeah, the relationship is kinda dying for now) get in the way of you being a loving and caring friend to your boyfriend.
I'm not saying that wanting to serve your country makes you crazy, only that extreme life changes grouped all together out of the blue seems odd for anyone, regardless of what their potential is and what they are sacrificing.
And truly you are going to have to sacrifice, LW. You're going to have to sacrifice your dreams, and hopes for this relationship, and recognize that at the very least getting your man help might save your relationship but it will definitely save someone you love.