Letters to the Editor

• David L. is right on point: Chick are you slow?

  [Read the article: My boyfriend danced dirty to make me jealous ]
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  LW, you overthink so much you are stupid.

  First you gloss over your divorce. Why would you put in the time and effort, especially with children in the mix, to get a divorce unless it was serious? Let me guess that from your end your man was either cheating, undependable, or both.

  Then both of you mess with other folks that proves two things:

  1. He can't find anyone who will put up with his sorry@ss the way you will.

  2. You're a "baby's mother" who he knows will take him back.

  So you get back together. Was your relationship on and off again for those two years?

  YOU TWO AREN'T MARRIED SO YOU HAVE NO ROOM TO TALK!. So basically if he wants to get down with the skank girlfriend, that's none of your business. Skank girlfriend has you and him figured out, that's why she knew she could be bold and say that crazy mess to him. The right kind of boyfriend would be uncomfortable with her intro and not continue to dance with her.

  He's treating you like you are slow b/c you refuse to deal with reality. He's humoring you because you're so busy getting mad at some unimportant skank girlfriend and "overthinking" that you are giving him a free pass on basically the beginnings of a cheat.

  It took you a week to get angry at him because you were overthinking the issue?! Chick please! It took you a week to gear up the nerve to say something 'cause you were waiting for him to be a better man than he is and show some remorse. LOL

  The issue isn't why he won't let you vent. Why should he waste his time the way you are? You're there, you're square. He's got the power in this relationship and b/c you don't want to leave his @ss and do you own d@mn thang, you figure payback is bitching at him. Now he won't even let you do that.

  Either roll with the homies or shut up about it. If he's your best option, then you might as well stay with him. Personally, I'd rather be alone than be disrespected.

  Permalink Tuesday, February 19, 2008 11:08 PM

• FrankBQuotes, here's where the anger comes from?

  [Read the article: My boyfriend danced dirty to make me jealous ]
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  Stupid people wasting precious life.

  This is world is going backwards and not forwards everyday. I see folks doing wrong because they are too lazy to try to do right, everyday.

  This LW writes in because the guy who is the father of her children and her on again off again sexual partner is wasting her time and his by letting the little bits of b.s. run her life, instead of cleaning it up and possibly dumping his @ss.

  I read Cary's column to find out about truly complex delimma's that folks have. Stuff that makes me go "Hmmmmm", not some stupid chick and her stupid ex-husband.

  So basically the anger comes from watching worthlessness in action, and realizing its getting farther than the folks who are really trying to keep it all together.

  Permalink Wednesday, February 20, 2008 10:42 AM

• LW, you're alright and your friends are wrong...

  [Read the article: I'm acting like a monster so my friends are deserting me]
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  Okay, I understand that you're high maintenance and have a tendency to go from spaced because of your hectic life to needy and inclined to give friends, fam, and SO no space, but...

  I think you need to stop beating yourself up and I also think you're friends are wrong to treat you the way they have.

  First, I think that you are who you are. Everyone has quirks and character flaws. No one is perfect, and that's okay because its our imperfections that allow us to learn wisdom and grace. But just like you aren't perfect, neither are your friends. True friends are supposed to accept that about us, or at least get over us being irritating pretty quickly. LOL

  Second, your friends should not have basically dumped on you for something that was really none of their business. You and your ex-girlfriend aren't married, so short of you emotionally harrassing her or beating her @ss on a regular basis, there is no reason for your "friends" to give you the cold shoulder in favor of her.

  What you need to do is say "f*ck them!" Not forever, but just for now. Let them come back to you. That's how you'll know if they are real friends. I personally think yours is a case of group dynamics gone wrong. Every once in a while in a clique the group picks one of its members to dump on. You get to guest star as Dumpee.

  Personally, if I were you, I'd have a problem with the fact that just because I fouled up my romantic relationship that I lost friends over it, especially since you were friends with these folks BEFORE you started going out with your ex.

  I also get the impression that you are used to playing the artsy fartsy f*ckup, and so its easier for you to absolve your friends of treating you badly even though you don't warrant it.

  I'm glad you have at least 2 friends who have your bad. I personally prefer to have fewer friends b/c they are 1. forgiving of my personality quirks, and 2. are less inclined to do this kind of cliquish b.s.

  Stay strong against peer pressure and good luck finding a girlfriend who doesn't run from passionate men. :)

  Permalink Friday, February 22, 2008 01:09 PM