Letters to the Editor
Afro Goddess
Published Letters: 178 Editor's Choice: 22
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So, I started to read others' letters...
[Read the article: Porn in theory, porn in practice]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]So I started to read others letters about this topic and realized that this isn't about LW but a porn debate.
I am a woman. I watch porn. Alone. Without my man to hold my hand throught the ordeal.
There are some men who don't like porn, and there are some women who do.
Yes, porn can objectify, but it can also turn a sista on. That's just me. Some folks see two bodies having sex and think "Should I do laundry today?".
Why do I like porn? Mostly b/c when I can watch decent porn (like I can pretend the couple wants to have sex with each other), I enjoy it. I enjoy sex in general. I even like seeing others enjoy sex. Hell, I even like seeing folks on BeautifulAgony.com enjoy sex (and all you get to see is folks orgasming from the shoulders up).
If you aren't into it like that, fine. I don't think any less of you. But don't bash porn b/c its not your thing and b/c men have been men and oversimplified it and the representation of women in porn.
You want less objectified women in porn? Then let them direct porn instead of just staring in them.
Peace.
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BDSM on the court...
[Read the article: A cheating bully is ruining our racquetball games]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This bully of yours needs a good strong mistress, is all.
LW says that off court he's perfectly cool, which means that on the racquetball court he feels free to express aggression and pack leader behavior that otherwise would seem out of place in his daily life.
Give the man a break! LW and the other teammates are a little wussy. Even if this guy weren't a bad sport, he clearly dominates and intimidates your little group with his physical prowess. Its rarely enjoyable to play against someone who almost always wins.
And here's our angst-filled LW, who writes in with the same social issues a 5th grader would have. LOL No one makes LW and friends play with this man. Man up!
This "bully" just needs someone strong to push back and call him on his bad behavior. Unfortuantely LW and friends aren't it. Kick him to the curb and send him my posting. It might be the hint he needs to find a game of female, D&S wrestling instead of racquetball.
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Hiphop vs. Imus...
[Read the article: Who gets to use the N word?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Your average hip hop artist:
1. Is very young
2. Is uneducated
3. Comes from an impoverished background and can not afford the high ideals needed to turn down record companies that exist to procure mysognistic, racist, and sexist music.
4. Has frequently said that if he weren't a rapper, he'd be in jail, a working criminal, or in dead.
Imus:
1. Old @ss man who was getting laid during the civil rights area and should have known better.
2. Old @ss man who spun "black music", so can't justifiably pretend that his views of black people are informed primarily by hip hop.
3. Should have a background (wealth, heads of state kissing his pinky ring) that he should take queues from the above mentioned rappers of how to walk, talk, and think.
If you are smart enough to second guess the use of the N-word, then you are smart enough to know better than to say it. Even black people don't say that word, so why the hell should white people spend day and night wishing, and praying, and hoping that one day they too can speak like an uneducated, criminalized, impoverished rapper?!
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The shallow end of the music pool...
[Read the article: Is it too late to start a band at 45?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Don't dive! DO NOT DIVE! Instead, stroll into the music pool of your interest. Just know why you're doing it.
You age is not a problem, but any fake, newbie, poser-esque shine on your face will be. If you have an interest in that music, then it should natural for you to go to concerts and meet people. It should be natural to meet up with other musicians to jam. It should be natural and not forced.
And also, do it for the right reasons. If you walk into the music scene trying to become famous, it might take away some of the earnestness that I read in your letter. It should be about creative expression, not running away from a life of your creation that you feel isn't worthy of your spirit.
I've always dreamed of being a hacker. Its my secret, SECRET, dream job. The closest I can get to admitting it in public is dating IT guys (bet you didn't know that there are techie groupies). Something about being outside of the matrix, a manipulator of the world that controls the world is sexy to me. I dream that I'm the chick who Angelina Jolie patterned her role in the film "Hacker" after. LOL
But the thing is, I've never been interested in code (beyond web design that is) enough to pursue hackerdom. At 30, if I was going to be a hacker, I would have done it by now. Its the kind of thing that either you do, even as a hobby, or not all. Hell, I don't even read techie magazines.
I know that I dream like this because it takes me out of the dull world in which I live. Because while I have a terribly interesting personality, my life isn't terribly interesting (can be duller than watching grass grow). I can dream it, but will never live it. I'm too lazy and disinterested in living the reality of being a hacker.
So, LW, I get where you're coming from. I'm just saying walk into the scene with a creative hand out to join others of like mindsets. And be prepared for the reality of your dream.