Letters to the Editor
momof2
Published Letters: 56 Editor's Choice: 2
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license and regstration please
[Read the article: Is women's studies dead?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]"And if being a feminist doesn't lead to a job, doesn't that suggest that society is still perhaps just a wee bit patriarchal?"
Are you for real? Were you on pills when you wrote this? Are you suggesting that women who don't take WS are not REAL feminists? That you need a degree in order to be a feminist? That you must study long and hard to be a feminist, like a pianist?
Are we all going to start having to apply for licenses in order to be real 'feminists'?
Please think a little before hitting the post button.
There are few jobs for women who study ws, just like there are few jobs for women and men who study sociology, English lit and philosophy. Humanities don't pay.
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@mte
[Read the article: Is Briana Waters a terrorist?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Unless you've written your own dictionary, the standard definition for the word "violence" can be found below:
vi·o·lence (vī'ə-ləns) Pronunciation Key
n.
1. Physical force exerted for the purpose of violating, damaging, or abusing: crimes of violence.
2. The act or an instance of violent action or behavior.
3. Intensity or severity, as in natural phenomena; untamed force: the violence of a tornado.
4. Abusive or unjust exercise of power.
5. Abuse or injury to meaning, content, or intent: do violence to a text.
6. Vehemence of feeling or expression; fervor.
http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=violence
Nowhere does it say that all of these happen only to PEOPLE not POSSESSIONS.
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very cynical
[Read the article: I want a baby so badly it scares me]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I have to agree with NicoleShield. A lot of these letters are very cynical. LW is expressing a perfectly normal feeling. She's not writing to say "I really want a baby to match my outfit and I think I'll con my bfriend into knocking me up in order to get that". She's expressing a normal feeling and I'm not sure why there are so many letters knocking her for it.
I also agree with those who say that at 28, LW has time, but not all the time in the world. Now is a good time to start to seriously think about these things, if this is what she wants. Until about 20 years ago, it was actually quite normal for most adults (because that's what you are after about 21) to actually marry and have children in their early to mid 20's. Imagine that!
I also agree with the other commenters who gave practical advice about how to accomplish the goals of finding a good husband and a good house. Your desires are very reasonable and I hope you are able to satisfy them sooner rather than later.
I think you should also be very wary of jumping into single parenthood without giving the marriage route at least a good shot. Single parenthood is extremely difficult and I think it should only be done as a last resort and with excellent backup.
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Re: But does the baby "need" you, LW?
[Read the article: I want a baby so badly it scares me]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I have to laugh at all these pseudo-analytical posts questioning the LW's "real" motivations. I have news for all of the posters who think the LW is selfish for wanting a baby and is not really thinking about "the baby's needs". 99% of parents don't actively concentrate on how they are going to devote their lives to their children right before they jump in the sack with their partners to make a kid. Yet most parents end up being pretty decent nonetheless. How can this be?
Most parents make babies for selfish reasons. Usually it's just cause they want a baby. (it's also because they love kids in general, they love families, etc.) And usually, the babies are cute enough and the parents are sensitive enough to fall madly in love with their offspring, even if they didn't think really long and hard about all the work and sleepless nights parenting would entail.
Sure there are tons of bad selfish parents around, not to mention the horrifically abusive ones. However, these people didn't become that bad parents that they are because they didn't think really long and hard before becoming parents. And it doesn't sound like the LW is in danger of becoming either.
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Leeandra
[Read the article: The parent trap]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]That's because you didn't see this stroller:
http://www.philandteds.com/nz/sportdouble_07_1.htm
Best baby purchase we ever made, and it was only $300 for the stroller and extra seat. (We bought the previous year's model)
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Babies who mysteriously grow up
[Read the article: I want a baby so badly it scares me]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Seriously, I've never heard of parents who are horrified to discover when their babies begin to crawl, walk, talk, eat solid foods, sleep through the night. Or that one day, they wake up and their baby is suddenly replaced with a preschooler.
Everyone who's cautioning the LW "They don't stay babies" sound like they've never actually had babies or kids.
Most parents actually like it when they can interact with their children, observe the world, laugh at a joke. And the most hilarious comparison was the first one, about how they don't stay babies like dogs don't stay puppies.
As for never being off duty, yes, ultimately, the parents are always responsible but it is possible to get good childcare and there's always preschool at 2 if you choose to stay home. You're not chained to them 24/7 till their 18.