Letters to the Editor
ddg425
Published Letters: 8
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This just doesn't matter, in any way, shape or form.
[Read the article: She is JT LeRoy]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Who cares?
Who cares about this story? Why does it matter? Why did you bother to publish it, let alone as your lead article?
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Yes, exactly.
[Read the article: My boyfriend dumped me and I'm desolate]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Yes, exactly.
"It isn't even so much the dying that we can't handle, it's the surprise, the betrayal,...".
Yes, exactly.
Brand new black and blues, that you didn't even know could happen.
When I went through something like this -- after 18 years of marriage-- I remember feeling that I was walking through a narrow, narrow passage, in which both walls were lined with shards of broken glass. I had no option but to keep moving forward, and to know that this was what I must do, that this was a reality I didn't know existed, but that I must simply keep going forward, and GET USED to the existance of this reality. Not necessarily accept it as what will always be, but work it into my idea of what is possible not only in life, but in MY life.
The pain, the physical pain, was excruciating.
I lost weight, I was sick for months.
Now, it's six years later. I'm still able to be blindsided, but not by the same things. I'm with someone else now. The sex is better. The talking is better. Even the pain is better.
You just develop some black and blues.
It's just that no one tells you that this will be the TRUE shape, the true nature of black and blues.
It's the things that you never expected, and thus never made room for, that blindside you with such pain.
And you simply move through it, knowing that you're doing the very thing that adults sometimes do, about which they are not warned (and rightfully so) as children.
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re: Old School
[Read the article: Old school]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]You had me right up to the end. Laughing out loud, saying "blessyoublessyoublessyoublessyou!!"
But then, a little too much crotchety, blinded old-biddie bitterness crept in. The real thing, not a reaction. You lost your humor. That last little part was yours and yours alone -- not the voice of a generation. Not representative of women like myself who, at 51, find delicacy, humor and heat amidst the "More" bullshit. To not be part of the "More" mind-twaddle is not equivalent to being part of "geezerhood"; that's an unfortunate leap that you made from one extreme to the other. Your choices are neither "Amazon" nor "geezer". The magazines are bullshit -- so be it. You're simply a person, here, alive, funny, likely with a slightly different bod and mind than 25 years ago. But to call that geezerhood? At best you failed your imagination and spirit. At worst you actually caved to the "More" mentality, just from the opposite end. Let it go entirely as something against which you push for self-definition. It's nonsense on both ends!!
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Give it back.
[Read the article: My ex's grandmother left me some money -- should I share it with him?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Give it back.
Make a clean break by giving it back.
No need to wrestle with ethics or persuade yourself of anything.
It was given in the context of your partnership with the grandson.
Sever your ties cleanly; otherwise, you risk the weight of the money weighing you down over the years, costing you much more in freedom than you might gain in dollars.
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Are you kidding me?
[Read the article: I'm younger than that now]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Are you kidding me? Really -- are you kidding me? THIS is what you've come up with? Good Lord: all you've done is tighten your blinders and make them even MORE self-referential. Have 53 years not taught you anything about stepping outside yourself? Where is your sense of awe? -- I wish you well, and I wish you insight, but these are some of the most prosaic, self-mirroring banalities I've ever read.
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yes, exactly.
[Read the article: The feminist who made me blush]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]yes, exactly, just what you said.
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wonderful response
[Read the article: I'm a brilliant scientist and I fear for the world's fate]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]some of the most astute advice you've ever given.
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re: her lack of response to Biden's show of emotion
[Read the article: How Sarah Palin blew it]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]"...she lost the debate when Biden choked up over losing his wife and child in a car accident in which his sons were critically injured -- and she went straight back into 'John McCain is a maverick.' I truly expected her to express human sympathy with Biden, and her failure to do so showed me something deeply wrong with her. *But maybe that's just me.*":
Nope, it's not just you. Her response, or lack of one, was chilling. Either she was so on autopilot ("I may not answer the questions you want me to") that she practically didn't hear him, or her desire to sell herself and to hell with everyone else trumped every other emotion, or she's simply cruel at heart. Whatever the reason, I, like you, felt that it showed something deeply wrong with her.