I'll bolster Anon by saying I think you're pretty sickening too. I usually find hard and cynical people, who sneer at the lives of women being destroyed, at least tiresome. But this--sickening.

What creates "meth skanks"? Having to sit on the laps of people like you, night after night.

If you are willing or wanting to do meaningless, committment-free fucking, all of your "guy friends" will be delirious with joy.

If you don't want to fuck them, they won't be your friends for very long.

I see what you're saying, but the above is, sadly, true.

You can even see on this fairly educated thread the cruelty of the comments and the "fuck 'em and chuck 'em" attitude of the guys. Why put yourself through that? If you don't want to be hit on for sex, don't hang out with men.

come to think of it, even if you have NSA sex with them, they won't be friends with you after they find a "real" girlfriend. So you can't really be friends with guys whether you're putting out or not. It never lasts either way.

What, you expect them to look at you as a person, and value your friendship based on your conversation, character and good qualities?

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAAA.....he he he

The only thing guys have a fleeting interest in is that slimy gash between your legs. For that, they will do a lot for a short time. But don't kid yourself that it has anything to do with you. If you tore off your head men wouldn't notice, unless you give really good blow jobs. BTW this is even true if you marry the man.

That's just guys. These days, they don't even apologize for it. No use being upset, but no need to puzzle over this "issue" any longer.

read Anon at 7:52

I have a close platonic male friend of many years as well. But such are the exceptions that prove the rule.

All I and the others are saying is what we have learned from experience. With very few and rare exceptions, a man will meet you, talk to you, maybe spend time in some mutually enjoyable activity and then want to either fuck you or never spend time with you any more.

I'm not talking about him treating you or planning something, like going out to an event together, because that really is a date and dating works with certain hopes and expectations in mind. You might misunderstand what those hopes or expectations are or not be on the same page with your values, but that's another set of issues.

I'm speaking of men I have never dated or met in any way that could be construed as a date. Eventually they do get to a point of, "we fuck now, or go our separate ways". I think it's very sad that some nice and interesting people I've met and could have been friends with, I've lost just because they are of the opposite sex.

So no, with almost no exceptions most of the guys I've met (and I am from a field of work where I have a lot of contact with people and am by nature reasonably social) have totally failed to see me as a person. Yes it's sad, but that's the way it is. Maybe when I get older it will be different, but from what I've heard with older women this gets worse, not better, because the man is not interested in the long term any more.

And BTW the blame that gets heaped on the woman when she turns down sex is pretty unbelievable, and is emotionally hurtful and cruel. Thanks guys for all you do.....:)