A couple weeks ago, a woman wrote in to Cary complaining about how her husband was too damn short to turn her on.

Now, we have a woman complaining about how her boyfriend is too uneducated to make her happy.

My advice to the current LW is the same as it was for the "short hubby" LW: Do right by your man, and let him go. He deserves better than you.

I have met/known doctors and lawyers who are as stupid and anti-intellectual as they come. How they passed their respective bar exams is a mystery to me...and makes me feel kinda scared about our healthcare/legal systems!!

I also have met/known people with only a HS education who are incredibly erudite - capable of and passionate for critical thinking, well-versed in literature, art and science...and with nary an air of smug elitism about them.

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Is your boyfriend intelligent, LW? I have no idea.

But if he is as decent a person/mate as you say, then he deserves to be loved and respected. Clearly, you are unable to fulfill the latter requirement, if not the former.

So get some good karma by breaking up with him and letting him go. He will find true love after you. There are no doubt many women out there who will not get hung up just because he does not have an abbreviation like PhD or MD after his name - they will just see him, love him and be able to respect him because he is a great partner and man.

And you? Make yourself happy by going back to dating your fellow "book-larn'd" academics...JDs, PhDs, MDs, BVDs etc etc. Sure, many of them may turn out to be supremely arrogant, anal-retentive, hyper-competitive with you and insecure...but at least you can respect their education credentials.

Meanwhile, your reads-at-a-12th-grade level ex will probably be ultimately happy; and if there is any justice in the world, that is all that matters.

P.S. - Rent and watch the movie "Good Will Hunting" sometime. And in doing so, realise that you may be disposing of Will Hunting in favor of the Ivy League Ponytail-Poseur. Do you like apples, LW??

Tiger Woods: game-defining player who is not only far and away the best golfer of his generation, but a bi-racial person who broke into a sport that had been whiter than Kelly Ripa for so long...and made it his personal playground.

Furthermore: in the clutch time, Tiger does nothing but win...

So comparing Barack to Tiger? What wonderful honesty, Repubs!!

And come clutch time in November - well, let's hope McCain is a little more dignified than Fuzzy Zoeller.

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P.S. - Even our Phil Mickelson...a.k.a. Hilary Rodham Clinton...could beat your Fuzzy McCain.

She's no Tiger, of course...but she could still get the job done.

I am honestly sorry about your terrible experiences with the two BFs you mentioned. However, projecting the behavior of only 2 men into a blanket statement condemning all those content with where they are in their careers, i.e. -

"he's less educated and/or passionate about achieving than me but I love him anyway"

Is quite unfair! Understandable, given your relationship past, but unfair nonetheless.

What you fail to see is that your problems with your two previous BFs had nothing to do with their education level or Quote-Unquote passion; it was because they were assholes. They didn't care enough about you and your relationship to adapt, suggest compromises or change in any way.

There are many wonderful guys out there who are passionate - but perhaps not "passionate about achieving". One of my closest friends works two jobs - one as a Animal Humane Shelter aide, the other a paid management position at a local Food Bank which serves families in need.

This sweet, funny, intelligent bloke absolutely loves what he does - and he has no desire to try to ascend any ambition ladder...not when his current jobs offer a solid salary and incomparable fulfillment!

So would you reject / dump someone like him - solely because he's not looking to get a corner office and company car?? Would you reject someone like him just because of the bad experiences with the "developmentally-challenged artist" type slacker BFs who messed you up before?

Just something to think about. Best of luck in your future relationships and life ventures.

Lonewolfy

P.S. - As I mentioned in my previous post, beware of the man/BF who meets your "uber-ambitious" criteria; nothing is less fun than dating a guy who is openly or passive-aggressively hypercompetitive with you.

Trust me - u don't wanna go there!!

Ann Coulter about to go skinny-dipping...which would explain the sh*t-eatin' grin on Darth Cheney's mug!

Jeez, you "boring white people" need to cut yourself some slack.

Take it from a minority who emigrated to the US a while ago: while foreign cultures/people are by default "exotic" in their newness to and differences from the stereotypical WASP American experience, they really aren't that fascinating once you become acclimatized to them.

And FWIW, from my experiences the "boring" American culture which you natives excoriate can actually be quite fascinating -on levels both explicit and subtle - to a curious outsider.

Finally: self/self-culture-loathing really does not make you a better person or progressive.

Open-mindedness and fairness to everyone - eeeevil, tyrannical middle-class WASP Yanks included - does. That's just my 2 cents.

While Japan/Korea can compete for the brunette market, Italy should dominate when it comes to (real-hair) redhead and blonde wigs though, right?

Unless the Japanese have a way to uniformly bleach or color black hair - do they? I honestly have no clue, since I chose to take the course 'History of the CodPiece 101' over 'Wig Technology 152' as my Fey Elective Requirement back in college...