Maybe guys don't want to just be your friend because you tell everyone that you think all guys are stupid sluts. Why would anyone want to be friends with a person who so transparently thinks they're worthless? I'm not a guy, and *I* certainly wouldn't want to hang out with you.

I have many platonic guy friends. They're not interested in me, I'm not interested in them (well, except for one, but I think I've come to some sort of peace with that). We have a good time together doing dorky things like playing Rock Band or flinging soda bottles out of homemade catapults or dancing to ska bands or watching Sci-Fi movies. The end.

Someone else, who I apologize but I can't remember who you are, said that many women she knew or has met don't seem to have any *interests* of their own, and I am really glad you said that because I've often wondered why most of my closest friends have been men. The women I meet as an adult rarely talk about anything besides each other and boys; they don't talk about sports they play, or hikes they go on, or races they're running in, or art they make, or books they've read, or ANYTHING. I have to wonder what they do with all their free time. Hang out in bars and get wasted hoping that love will find their stumbling drunk-girl antics adorable? Good luck with that!

I did, but I have to tell you that I have a close (male, heterosexual) friend who is not interested in fucking me. Trust me on this one, I know it to be true. We've been friends for about a year and a half now, and the friendship has only gotten closer over time, not more distant as the "no interest in fucking" thing has become established.

Everyone sees the world through a filter of their personal experiences, I do it just as much as everyone, but that doesn't mean those experiences are universally applicable.

Incurred while my mother was sick and I made cross country trips to take care of her. I still haven't dug out from that.

Is tina the letter writer?

Naw, she's just bitter and strung out because she's radiantly hot and no man can see past her radiant hotness to view her as a person and as a friend rather than just wanting to fuck her and discard her as worthless if she says "no".

The less attractive rarely have that experience, and consequently have many good platonic male friends that we hang out with regularly. I guess that's something, right? I never thought I'd be grateful to be plain.

I do have a male friend (the one I am close to despite his lack of desire to fuck me) who has very few female friends for a similar reason, although he's more sad about it than bitter. So many women turn out to have agendas and ulterior motives, and when he finds out that they're interested in fucking *him* rather than just being friends (which is, in fact, what he wants and no he's not gay) he feels quite bad because he thinks he's made them feel bad by not being interested in them.

Also, keep in mind that your brother decided to attack your husband without any direct provocation. In my book, that's worth giving your brother the cold shoulder for until he apologizes.

Really? The LW freely states that they were not "gracious" guests for the entire first week of a three-week stay. She also goes on to say that her husband is aloof, is not "a family person" which I would interpret as a kind way of saying "ignores my family", and doesn't ask them questions about their own lives, when -- presumably -- they are trying to engage him in conversation about his life.

That's just straight up rude. I know all the introverts (and I am one myself) are going to say "well he just gets overwhelmed!" etc. but feeling overwhelmed or overloaded is not an excuse for rude and uncivil behavior. The LW *told* her brother to deal with the husband directly, after years of the wife trying to get him to behave politely to her family, so he did. The hubby turned around and told him to fuck off. Yeah, he's a real class act!

Finally, the sibs who live near their parents are in a much better position than the LW, Cary, and all the cynical posters who think this is all about inheritance (!) to see what kind of effect four cranky, crabby, uncivil, ungracious house-guests (two of whom are adults, and therefore have little excuses for their behavior) have on their elderly hosts after staying in their home for *three weeks*. Their opinion has a little bit more weight, I'd say.

my diet for the past decade has pretty much been vegan except for the meat

So... basically an omnivorous diet then, right?

Measure me in inches or centimeters, I don't mind, just make it something universal and independently verifiable (like with a tape measure!)