Sorry to be so blunt, but she is-the cops arrested her at a known crack house and then she denied it. How could she not have known where she was? Has she lost her map?

She is in rehab at your expense-financially and emotionally. While you are married, she is your spouse. I suggest you get a legal divorce and not take her back.

Junkies do not listen to reason, they do not change and they end up ruining not only their lives but their family's as well-in every single way possible. That is almost a given, and the rare exceptions are just that-very rare.

Let her destroy herself-for you have lost your love and she is not going to come back as the person you used to love. Listen to your gut, think with your head and move on.

The rehabilitators, the doctors, and the shrinks are making money from her problem. You're paying them to tell you they need more of your money.

Sometimes a lost cause is just that-lost. Your child will be fine once the entire thing plays out-but you might want to explain to them why "mommy" is in the hospital and warn them that she won't be the same person they knew. Kids are resilient.

Your partner is supposed to be an adult. Make her take responsibility for her own mistakes and don't let her con you into another round of the same old stuff.

Maybe she'll grow up someday.

Today the NYT posted a commentary by one of the 9/11 commission assistant lawyers, and he proposed this:

"The Bush administration should propose and Congress should pass legislation allowing for preventive detention in future terrorism cases like that of Mr. Padilla. It is the best way to ensure both the integrity of our criminal law and the safety of our nation."

This is the way to keep Guantanamo open-just convict more people on invented charges. Hold them until the problem goes away, with no trials, no charges and no accountability. Just what we friggin' need: more of the same, being aired in public by someone who should know better.

Guantanamo should be closed immediately-but with viewpoints like this floating around, I sincerely doubt that this administration is interested in closing the most notorious prison in the world right now. All they want is a stamp of approval for anything they see fit to do in the name of justice-including injustice.

There are times when I wish there were the green men from Mars so we could get rid of those guys who are screwing up our lives. Elections aren't enough to get rid of them. They'll be back in countless forms.

Opus is right.

I'm sure the President will make a very heavy-handed reference to the failure of the Senate Republicans to stop the cloture of this bill..by telling us that our "freedom and security are at a great risk" by not automatically passing this damned bill.

He'll make it plain, loud and clear, that he's disappointed that his agenda is not being met by his henchmen, and that he's going to have to take them out to the woodshed for a good talking-to..or worse.

I hope to god the entire bill dies in motion and the entire Senate goes home to ponder their excesses. It's high time we got breathing room from the goon squads posing as Homeland Security, with their obnoxious, illegal and criminal laws, such as the Patriot Act, etc.

Too soon to cheer? Let's wait and see.

I happen to agree that Americans are over-prescribed and over-diagnosed with conditions and pills that they have no idea of how they will affect their lives.

I've seen 5 year olds given Prozac. I've seen 10 year olds given Zoloft. I've seen too many children given too many anti-psychotic, mind-altering drugs by the doctor. I've seen people actually get extremely agitated when they could not get their Xanax too early and go into withdrawal. I've seen people so addicted to Vicodin that they called the pharmacy 5 times in one day to ask if their doctor had called in their prescription.

I've had people go totally bonkers for not being able to get their medications because they were being refilled too early, and the insurance wouldn't pay for them.

I call these people addicts. They might have clinical depression, psychosis or ADD..but it doesn't mean the problem is being treated effectively-merely that the symptoms are. Not the true diagnosis.

Yes, we are being over-medicated by the doctors, Big Pharma and the salesmen. I'm not proud of myself for being in the pharmacy and enabling the addiction of Americans. It is less honest than selling pot or heroin on the street, and far more insidious.

I happen to think that depression is a fact of life, it comes with being a human being. True clinical depression is a rarer beast and is not as easily diagnosed-but you can't tell the difference from the ads on TV, being sponsored by any one of the drug companies.

I can't tell you what the total effects of having children on powerful medications like Ritalin, Zoloft or Prozac will be in the future...but I can tell you that we'll reap what we sow: addicted adults.