I don't mean to suggest that it's abnormal to want to have relationships with people who don't hate you. Naturally anything long term requires some good will.

It is just that you don't seem to have much insight into yourself. Correct me if I am wrong on the following.

1. You are concerned that the women at work don't seem interested in you because they find you relatively powerless.

2. You say it is hard to get dates.

3. At no juncture did you seem to indicate that you wanted some sort of lasting connection.

4. Your criteria seem to be (a) They don't hate me. (b) I can get the sex I need.

5. Given such criteria, I suggest that you need not have much money to pay for cheap sex.

6. You respond by implying that prostitutes hate men. You seem more inclined to find some younger girls (however young they need to be to not yet hate men).

7. I don't think number 6 is a very viable option. You could get arrested. I assure you that I have known some prostitutes who I did not feel hate men. They are only in it for the money.

Look here, I am am trying to help you. You seem to have lots of problems just having a simple encounter. Are you some sort of closeted fundamentalist Christian or something?

This is my last advice to you: Go out in some seedy part of town. Find relevant women. Take along your extensive questionaire. Interview a few of said relevant women. You might get lucky. You might find one fundie nut who loves guys without much money and can assure you she does not hate men. You might get lucky and she might even do it for charity -- although I wouldn't count on it.

It is you who are picky. I have been trying to help you overcome your fears so that you can get laid. Do you appreciate it? No! You're picky, picky, picky.

BTW, what makes you feel I have women's interests particularly at heart? "All I need to know us that (someone) is a human being. He/she can't be anything worse." (That's paraphrasing Twain.)

I was one of the people who said "Have the baby."

It seems to me that we can have honest differences of opinion here and still be prochoice. I never said, "Have to baby completely against your will and all other inclinations." Do not overlook that if the LW had completely made up her mind she would not have posted her letter. Instead, she comes here seeking counsel. Cary gives her some counsel. Others of us chime in with our own opinion. Having an opinion that the LW should have the baby is not a guilt trip. Having an opinion that aborting will affect the marriage, is only logical given the info the LW provided.

Does the marriage have to end if the LW has an abortion. Of course not. At any juncture in a marriage, circumstances can change. There are no guarantees one way or another. We are all best-guessing.

If the LW is smart, she will take Cary's advice and all of our letters directly to her husband and ask him what he thinks. Then she will have the information she needs to make a more informed choice.

In her letter, I sensed undercurrents. Things not talked about. Things implied but not directly stated between her and her husband. It is difficult to have an honest marriage, but an honest marriage is probably the only kind worth having. Whatever her decision, maybe some growth can take place for both of them.

I once lived in a rural environment. Pesticides were readily available. I once saw a dog die from an incidental ingesting of a pesticide. Pretty unpleasant.

That these women are willing to use this source to kill themselves proves a terrible desperation is at work.

If Bush and Gonzales cannot deny this story, they should both resign immediately.

Of course they won't. People who would harass a man on his sickbed while trying to circumvent the law -- these people would do anything, wouldn't they?

When is the public going to figure out the the emperor not only has no clothes; he's also a sociopath with no clothes and a hard-on for power?

If the MSM doesn't pursue this one, they deserve to considered as dead by every honest news seeker.

China, Sri Lanka, and Vietnam are all Asian countries. I wonder what they have in common with India?

Also, I recently became aware that in Malaysia a husband can take additional wives. I wonder what the suicide stats are from Malaysia?

All this time I thought you were complaining because you can't get a woman because most women hate men.

Maybe the "Girls Gone Wild" article would appeal to you. Apparently there are some women who cannot not wait to flash people and give sex to mere strangers. I wonder if they hate men?

The timing fits. March 2004. I hate to sound as paranoid as thou, but . . .

I also suspect maybe some advance damage control. I have always wondered what Bush really did that time he went apparently missing from duty. Their whole swiftboat smear against Kerry would have fallen apart if it could have been proven that Bush was stoned on something or in a mental hospital when he was supposed to be serving his country.