Letters to the Editor
AKA Smith
Published Letters: 4698 Editor's Choice: 83
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Dear anonymous
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]I sense that you may be unhappy about something. There may be some issues with which you take issue, but do you have something against little girls?
If you will read the report I mentioned you will see that Emma's options are quite limited. She only wants a family and the woman she calls "Mommy" just happens to be a lesbian. Hadaway is not even a woman who wanted to make any sort of point or was even seeking adoption in the first place. Initially, she only wanted to help an abused and neglected little girl whose biological mother did not feel able to care for her anymore. Emma's biological mother Debbie just gave her Hadaway.
Anonymous, have you ever just happened to care for a child simply because it was the right thing to do?
Anonymous, are you familiar with the risks and limitations our the foster care systems in our nation?
Anonymous, have you ever just wanted a home?
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Hi brightstar65
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]It may be confusing to have all these subjects jumbled together. I never meant to respond to the first anonymous because I said nothing about abortion.
With the second anonymous, I see what you mean, but I know nothing about NOW's current policies. I am only concerned with the little girl who needs to be adopted.
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To the anonymous with this subject line: Lesbians shouldn't be mothers and fathers shouldn't be parents
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]Hi. Brightstar65 has pointed out that I may have misunderstood your post. I read your subject line but somehow the first sentence of your post did not compute. My apologies.
I would like to point out that for children in the foster care system, all viable loving parents are needed. If people would read the source article, they would see that the subject is not only about the rights of the lesbian in question -- who is not the child's biological mother -- but also about a very stuffy judge who is not fulfilling the mandate of laws concerning child welfare. It is the best situation for the child that is important!
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Oh no! Now I see I really messed up.
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]My letter addressed to brightstar was really meant for coneskater. I think I am tired and should just go to bed.
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To ratteyrb:
[Read the article: My husband read my journal]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Yes, you should probably leave the relationship, but not only for the reasons that you mention.
I realize that you are frustrated right now but not one shred of real regard, respect, or tenderness toward your girlfriend is conveyed in your letter.
If you have not cheated on her or told her any really outrageous lies along the lines of: "I went to visit my aunt" -- when you were really at a strip club, then she has serious problems. In order to solve her serious problems, she needs to be with either no one, or with someone who is so totally in love with her that he will commit to complete patience and maybe even couple's therapy to help her solve these problems.
Some women, especially when young, look for a mirror in a man's eyes. It is essential for such a woman that she not only knows that her lover loves her but that he helps her define who she is. Why else is she so eager to know your view of her? A mature woman might want your regard but she basically would not change herself much because of her man's reflection of her. Therefore, she would not need to know every nuance of your communication with others about her.
You should let her go because you are not her proper mirror. You should let her go because the two of you are unhappy together. You should let her go because it is too exhausting to have everyday be a drama.
Why are you willing to deal with such drama?
On the other hand, if you have cheated on her and she knows that you have, then her behavior is actually fairly normal in sphere of garden variety, codependent relationships. If you have cheated on her and she only suspects rather than knows, prepare to be punished by the utter relentlessness of a woman's intuition. She will not stop her invasions of your "privacy" until she has ferreted out your misdeeds.
If you have been both faithful and honest with her, how can you possibly imagine that such uncontrolled behavior is normal? It is extremely abnormal and she may even become a danger to you or to herself.
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Another thought:
[Read the article: My husband read my journal]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Sometimes people who are terribly nosy and suspicious of other's communications are actually up to something themselves. They either feel guilty and express their guilt as suspicion and invasion of privacy, or they think going on the offense will prevent others from looking to closely at their own activities.
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rb, enjoy Mexico . . .
[Read the article: My husband read my journal]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]and, if you ever get tempted to begin a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder again, watch that movie where Glenn Close boils the bunny.
(For all the people who now want to boil me for the BPD reference: I used to have a touch of it and got treatment and got better. Also, I never destroyed any child's Easter animal . . . but BPD can be an extremely serious disorder.)
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To brightstar65:
[Read the article: Should I tell my daughter about her mother's two abortions?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]By your reasoning, a woman who is raped should have to report a resulting pregnancy to her rapist and the rapist would have a right to have a say in the in her decisions to abort, carry to term, or surrender the child for adoption.
Do you agree?