Though somewhat more risky than it has been in the past.

I think the main problem is that right now academic study is not for you. It doesn't click, you want to get out in the world and your parents are actively blocking for you.

This is not a criticism - university etc is obsessively overrated in modern society when we have a critical shortage of tradesmen - plumbers, builders, electricians etc.

Move away from home - a long way preferably, try an apprenticeship, you could well find you enjoy working with your hands designing and creating something real. No need to sign up to be an office drone yet, which is where most higher education will take you.

Or just bum off, work some no low key jobs for a while. Maybe in a couple of years you'll find further education more appealing - in which case you'll do much better at it.

This is how you do weird plots.

Oh they did. You must sit down.

Perfect snark - 10 Points.

You really are a complete tosser.

LW, you don't say if your mother knew of the abuse at the time and did nothing, but either way she sounds like a selfish manipulative piece of work - I'd avoid the whole thing and feel no obligation or responsibility for it. Your mother is the one forcing the issue, not you.

All the best.

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/02/21/world/middleeast/21iraq.html

But then lazy fact free reporting is a long term attribute of BS

Its a neocon troll and pretty stupid one at that. Ignore it and the other sock puppets it operates here (Shawn etc).

Texting enabled you to get past your inhibitions and indulge in some guilt free quickes which hopefully all parties enjoyed.

Can't we just enjoy some spontaneity and joy? and leave it at that?

Instead all this revisionist angst ridden morality get brought into play.

At least this isn't broadsheet, then we'd have a sophomoric fact free essay on how texting enables the oppression of women..

Unless you can point out the statute books?

Hmmmm, now I reread your post do I detect a hint of sarcasm? my apologies if that is the case.

Actually I think the sexual prudes posting here are 50/50 female/male

Nailed it

Go Obama!

But people always seem to need reminding. These articles are necessary on a regular basis.

Keep it frosty folks and don't be suckered into arguing with these trolls, they're only there to foster Democratic division. Obvious give-aways are such code words as "Marxism", "Socialism", "Obamatrons", "Foster was murdered" etc.

To see how prominent second wave feminists don't hesitate to throw anyone who critiques them under the bus, regardless of who they are or the facts. And of course a majority of Salon readers pile on as well.

Supposedly Salon is trying to attract younger women readers. They're going to fail miserably with tone deaf screeds from the likes of PC, not to mention the recent storm of whiny Hilary "They stole her election" articles.

I think you both nailed it, certainly you eloquently expressed what I'm unable to write down myself.

Bziipp!

I'd disagree, I'd say a core duty of a being a parent is meeting your child's needs. If you can't do that then don't have them.

That's true, possibly even true for most neglect cases - people try, they just don't have the capacity.

But I think some here are trying to argue that AW owed no duty of care to RW.

Also interesting is how close some parts of second wave feminism are to neocons, in that the first response to criticism is to attack and smear the messenger, rather than address the content. Usually in as personal and hateful a way as possible.

A good point AKA,

though I tend to think that RW is attacking her mother on personal grounds rather than "isms" (feminism) ones. Agree that her drawing femminism into it may be misplaced, however its probably hard for her to draw the distinction as it appears to be inextricably interwoven with her neglected childhood.

Or given what you've revealed about your own parenting perhaps the article cut a little to close to home? feeling worried what your children might write in the future?

Look I can make personal attacks too! only mine are based on your own comments rather than sourceless rumours.

Yah, that's pretty bad. You could make a case that's its a symptom of a emotionally stunted childhood upbringing.

Not that its an excuse - we have a responsibility to not revisit these things on our children.

Now you're toast

Diary of Nancy Quan etc, interesting delightful stuff that challenged preconceptions.

Now all we have is the dreary parochial moralising of the comfortable middle class white "feminists" that infest Salon.

I'm touched and impressed by your ability to write with such feeling without being mawkish, thank you for your trust in us (the readers).

And a familiar story, but not one I've seen expressed with such simple eloquence before, without a hint of judgement. A refreshing change from Salon's usual fair.

All the best for the future.

As said earlier its a subtle understated essay that doesn't hammer its point in your face. We need more of this stuff.

You're quite right, I didn't need to go there. My apologies.

Softdog - I don't think the Author was apologising or regretting anything. Its worth reading her earlier articles on her husband as well.

Amity:

For once I'd like to read a woman who indulged unapoligetically.

You can — and more than once. Sadly, you have to look in Salon's archives to find what you want, though.

Yeah, I miss the Salon that used to go there.

However there is an addon - oldBar (https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/6227) that restores the old behaviour.