Have you ever noticed that male and female anatomy is different?

You're going to have to be clearer regards your point here. if you're trying to imply that the women is always the recipient and the man always the aggressor - what a sad world you live in.

This may be a surprise to you but men and women can both be drunk and agree to sex and be physically capable of it, though according to you that seems to mean the man is a rapist because the woman can't consent to sex. You'd think that would mean the woman was a rapist as well since the man is drunk and can't consent either. But apparently women are less capable then men somehow so that doesn't apply.

Lordy, how patronising.

News Flash : People like to get drunk and have sex - happens all the time.

Bigger News Flash : Many women like getting drunk

Biggest News Flash : Many women like sex

Still, good of you to caution your boy that he cannot really on you for support if any woman accuses him of anything.

Is the extreme passivity of women in your world - they don't get drunk of their own free will, they don't initiate sex and they're not responsible for their own actions.

I meet my wife (15 years ago now), a passionate feminist at a cocktail party. We both got exceedingly drunk and had much enthusiastic sex. If you told her she had been raped she quite possibly would punch your lights out - at the very least angrily lecture you on how wrong it is to trivialise a horrible crime in such a way, not to mention how patronising it is.

This whole "women aren't responsible when drunk" meme strikes me as revoltingly infantilising and suspiciously patriarchal - the removal of womens status as adults for their own good.

You really have issues, you just can't conceive that consenting adults can enjoy amongst other things, drinking and having sex. You particularly seem to have issues with women - the whole idea that a women may choose to drink and choose to have sex independently of a mans influence seems to be beyond you.

Why do I get the sense that you feel that you can't get laid unless the chick is unconscious

Dude, projection is a ugly thing and unseemly in public.

And there is a world of difference between drunk and paralytic - the fact that you don't seem to get this may explain this whole ridiculous conversation and further illustrates why emotionally retarded people scared of their own shadows should not be involved in adult discussions.

Breathalising everyone before they're allowed to snog. Though I seriously doubt you practice this policy in real life - stopping tipsy women and telling them they're going to be raped by their partners is a recipie for missing teeth.

So if a drunk guy is screwed by a woman is he raped? is she a rapist? why not? Jeeze I've been raped so many times - I'm traumatised.

Man, you're a walking, talking farce and you don't even realise it.

If I believed he was a reasonable human being I'd be highly offended by his rambling charges of rape, as it is he is to be pitied, and ignored.

I particularly like the way his examples have progressed from drinking, to paralytic drunks, to date rape drugs in the drink - it almost looks like he's trying to redefine his original statements so they don't look quite so ridiculous.

And yes, I would be worried if I were a friend of fetboys - they have a distressingly high incidence of rape. Makes you wounder what he's up to.

I don't think he's a fake but I seriously doubt he know shit about what he's talking about - from earlier letters:

fetboy:

I believe love cures all, my lady. At least from personal experience I know love cures PTSD.

Rubbish - utter, complete rubbish. And highly damaging rubbish if he's involved in counseling. I been involved with serious PTSD cases and some idiot spouting crap about "love heals all" is going to seriously fuck them up. Nearly as bad as "Just get over it already"

fetboy:

Personally I am terrified of all mood-altering drugs, and I have never used mood-altering drugs, even recreationally. I don't even drink, because I hate the way even small amounts of alcohol affects me.

He has issues and should not be allowed anywhere near a counselling center, counsellors need to be flexible, open minded, experienced in life and most of all *not* push their own agendas.

However, oddly enough, I agree with most of what he said re treatment of animals on a previous thread - "Feminist blog goes to the dogs", but then I am quite dogmatic on the subject of animal welfare.

If I wasn't already married I'd propose. Such inspired inanity deserves it's own reward - or punishment. You decide.

I think ... fetby! eeewwwuueee ... now I feel dirty.

By saying any women who had sex when she was drunk is raped - *you* are the person trivialising rape. Rape is a violent aggressive disgusting act and comparing it to drunken consensual sex - and yes drunk people can consent, you are spitting in the face of every woman and man who has suffered real rape.

Not to mention displaying a extraordinarily patriarchal attitude - who are you to decide when a women is competent or not?

You obviously read your own fear of losing control and committing rape onto everyone else - classic transferal.

Because do not doubt fetby, it is fear that drives you and your desire for control. And no doubt it is smothering the lives of every one close to you.